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Gratefulness
Truthfully, it can be said that we are always practicing something. Most often, we are practicing what is habitual, familiar, and mostly unconscious…
All the great wisdom traditions teach us that life is precious; that what is happening right now IS life, not some future destination, time, or state of mind. “Carpe Diem,” they say, implying that we must take none of this moment, and its opportunities, for granted. But as we all know, this is easier said than done, especially when our lives deliver us genuine challenges to living out this simple and profound philosophy. Fortunately, wisdom traditions, including gratefulness, offer a wide range of practices so that we can guide ourselves in becoming more fully awake and present; an opportunity available to all of us at every moment, no matter the conditions of our lives.
It may sound somewhat abstract, but a “practice” is anything we do that builds mastery through repetition. Practices offer us a pathway for sustained, incremental growth, and a mode of learning that can result in a “felt sense” regarding the progression of whatever we are trying to develop. Whether it’s the ability to stretch more deeply in a yoga posture, to remind ourselves to breathe rather than react in conversations, or to bring greater mindfulness into our day-to-day activities, practices can support us to move forward in our commitments and intentions.
Seeing habits of mind as routinized practices acknowledges that awareness has the possibility to interrupt and redirect our patterns.
Truthfully, it can be said that we are always practicing something. Most often, we are practicing what is habitual, familiar, and mostly unconscious. Habits of mind can be as much a practice as our daily routines. It can actually help to think of common attitudes such as resentment, fear, and projection as practices in which we engage as automatically as we make our tea or coffee in the morning. Seeing habits of mind as routinized practices acknowledges that awareness has the possibility to interrupt and redirect our patterns. If we can know and name—in the moment—that we are practicing resentment, it means we can possibly replace that practice with something more productive and in line with what we want to embody, and to do this we begin by paying attention.
When we think about all the ways we are already practicing our approaches to life, the concept of “practice” starts to sound less abstract, and reminds us that practicing is necessary to become adept at most anything, whether good for us, or bad. Proficiency arises from a regular commitment to any simple and familiar practice, and serves as a building block to all that follows. For example, even accomplished musicians practice the basic scales. No scales, no Beethoven. Same with athletes: no jogging, no marathons. Spiritual teachers: no regular contemplation, no wisdom to share.
Underlying all of this is repetition and commitment, but also a certain elegant simplicity. The form an effective practice takes is rarely complicated, maybe because we are complex enough inside ourselves, and the real work remains in grappling with the mind and persisting until something shifts and the heart knows it. Placing these ideas about practice and opportunity within the context of our day-to-day lives, it is helpful to think about how they can connect us to living gratefully.
We cannot be grateful for all that a given moment brings us; yet, in any given moment, we can be grateful for something. The gift within the gift of any given moment is opportunity. ~ Br. David Steindl-Rast Share
We cannot be grateful for all that a given moment brings us; yet, in any given moment, we can be grateful for something. The gift within the gift of any given moment is opportunity. ~ Br. David Steindl-Rast
Brother David says, “We cannot be grateful for all that a given moment brings us; yet, in any given moment, we can be grateful for something. The gift within the gift of any given moment is opportunity. We may feel that we have got nothing but trouble, but even our worst troubles are jam-packed with opportunity. Our troubles create a great deal of noise. In the midst of that din it is not easy to hear the soft voice of opportunity. We need trained ears. This is why we need to train our ears long before trouble breaks in on us.”
Gratefulness, like mindfulness or yoga, is an awareness practice and a way of training, deepening, and directing our attention. The point is not to become an expert in grateful living—never wavering from a grateful outlook—but to recognize that gratefulness can offer us a “touchstone” for life (especially in difficult times) where we can return our awareness again and again in order to shift or expand our perspective. Like other forms of practice, gratefulness makes us more resilient and flexible, and also offers a way to frame and learn from everything that unfolds in our lives. Through practicing over time, we gradually become more and more able to recognize the opportunity in every moment. Practice helps us to deliver on presence, and being present leads to so much else that is beneficial.
Recognizing that we are always practicing something, we begin to develop the capacity to become more aware of opportunities, and to shift our awareness toward that which serves us, others, and the world.
Every day – even the hard days, or maybe especially the hard days – offers us a chance to hone our skills through repetition and small steps. With gratefulness, we can adopt practices that are widely used, like writing in a gratitude journal to start or end our day, watching A Good Day, or reading articles, blogs or poems that remind us about being grateful. Like its close cousins, yoga and mindfulness, gratefulness is grounded in helping us to:
We often begin to truly practice gratefulness once we realize that we may not have full agency over all that happens in our lives, but recognize that we have choices about how to direct our attention and actions. Recognizing that we are always practicing something, we begin to develop the capacity to become more aware of opportunities, and to shift our awareness toward that which serves us, others, and the world. Working with these opportunities, we can gradually guide our hearts, minds, and bodies in such a way that we can more readily access real gratitude for the phenomenal gift of life—so precious, so temporary, and so worthy of our care and humble celebration.
Kristi Nelson is the Executive Director of A Network for Grateful Living. To read more about her visit this page.
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A Lesson from the Morning Doves
Kristi, The April 26th Daily Quote prompted this sharing which I think is quite supportive of your blog entry.
“It was my life – like all lives, mysterious and irrevocable and sacred. So very close, so very present, so very belonging to me. How wild it was, to let it be.” Cheryl Strayed
Good Morning, I packed my bags last weekend in preparation for a trip north to Kansas to visit my son, his wife and family of rescued animals, my sister and a dear ...
Good Morning, I packed my bags last weekend in preparation for a trip north to Kansas to visit my son, his wife and family of rescued animals, my sister and a dear uncle who will be there this weekend. At some level, I knew I was running away, not willing to work on what needs my attention.
A series of severe spring storms which keep blanketing Oklahoma, Kansas, Arkansas and Missouri for the next several days have made my planned road trip an unwise adventure. I have decided to let it go and own the fact that I’m on an intense inner road trip at this time and I can better gestate this inner path in the comfort of my own home.
Just a month ago this week, I returned home to Louisiana from an enriching five month sojourn in New Mexico. When I arrived here, I discovered a Morning Dove nesting on my front porch in a hanging planter. This did not surprise me because it was the second spring for a Morning Dove to choose my porch to build a nest.
Morning Doves lay two eggs and I eagerly awaited the birth of this dove’s little ones. Interestingly, she had no problem with my ingress and egress from my front door several times daily; but, let any one else arrive at my door and she would panic. She seemed to know, it was my home, too. That was acceptable to her.
She had two healthy babies about 10 days later and about a week after their birth, I awoke one morning to find them strutting around the driveway with her close at hand. Since I had been told when birds abandon a nest, they do not return, I thought I would probably not have another nest builder until next year so I decided I would plant some oregano in that hanging pot. I love growing fresh herbs.
A few days ago, I noticed two young Morning Doves (Morning Doves mate for life.) putting twigs in the planter. I wondered if at least one of them was a former resident. I realized that by planting something there, I had disturbed what apparently was, to their way of thinking, a family home and so I removed the oregano and sure enough they claimed the territory. I’m once again awaiting the birth of new life.
So what is the lesson of the Morning Doves?
I cannot open the front door and pass by that nest without feeling the trust this latest set of Doves has placed in me. The future of their offspring has literally been placed in my hands.
I ask you to picture that, to frame it and hang it on the wall of your mind—my hands holding those two small eggs and determining their fate.
These doves have chosen to make my home their home and I learned, not so long ago, that all of creation wants to speak to me and to you. Is it reaching too far to apply this metaphor to my own life?
I ask myself: How long has it been since I have looked at the eggs in my basket? What am I birthing? Trust me, we are always birthing something. Is this new life I’m birthing evolutionary or revolutionary? Is it an open door or a revolving door? Am I walking through this door to greater awareness or am I stuck in an old vehicle, driving around and around the mountain and arriving in the same place over and over and never truly coming home to my own truth?
On my death bed, will I be able to say like Cheryl Strayed, “It was my life – like all lives, mysterious and irrevocable and sacred. So very close, so very present, so very belonging to me. How wild it was, to let it be.”
Blessings, Carol
Carol – Wow. Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful story with us, and for your being so courageously, lovingly present to see and hold the gifts of your life. Your sharing here is very moving, and I know that you will inspire others with your tenderness. Many, many blessings to you and all your companions…
Kristi, I love your writings. How true it is that it is very easy to get caught up in our daily challenges and forget that we are on this planet for such a short time - and letting our "troubles create a great deal of noise" for us. Distracting us, creating lots of self-talk, self-doubt and anxiety.
Practicing mindfulness or whatever else we may do to slow this world down a bit makes it easier for us to "see" the wonder and awe of this universe and our place in it. It would be a shame if we ...
Kristi, I love your writings. How true it is that it is very easy to get caught up in our daily challenges and forget that we are on this planet for such a short time – and letting our “troubles create a great deal of noise” for us. Distracting us, creating lots of self-talk, self-doubt and anxiety.
Practicing mindfulness or whatever else we may do to slow this world down a bit makes it easier for us to “see” the wonder and awe of this universe and our place in it. It would be a shame if we only started to look for our place and contemplate the wonders of our universe on our deathbed.
Without setting aside time for our practice, all we are doing is practicing distraction – making it much harder to really experience the wonder of it all. Carpe Diem.
Quoting Kristi here “We often begin to truly practice gratefulness once we realize that we may not have full agency over all that happens in our lives, but recognize that we have choices about how to direct our attention and actions. ”
So true and as practicing Essene Christian and a Researcher of Truth we have a prayer which I chose to repeat many, many time per day because it is one of the “practices” which maintains my Centered-ness in Being-ness. The prayer is….
“Absolute I...
“Absolute Infinite Being-ness; God. Everlasting Life, Love and Mercy Manifesting Yourself in Yourself, As your Total Wisdom and the Almightiness. Enlighten our minds to Understand you as the Truth, Clean our hearts to reflect Your Love towards You, and Towards all other Human beings.
Amen
For myself any form of Gratefulness comes out of the basic fact that ( and this is stated clearly in the above prayer as “manifesting yourself in yourself”) I and every Human Being IS a God, experiencing God, for God.
This being the first day after Easter, the celebration of the Resurrection, it seems appropriate to ownership of the Greatest gift of all …the experience ( yes including here all the imagined hardships ) of Being a Human Being. And “Awareness”( and in the researchers of Truth a method of developing awareness is by “Introspection” ) is indeed one one the “5 Keys to the Kingdom of Heaven”.
But without a clear understanding that we Human Beings are ‘Dual in One’ ( meaning BOTH in a Human form …bodies, physical, Psychical, Noetical …and our Divine Spirit-Soul-Self ) it is very easy to fall into the situation which, unfortunately, so many New Age practices do. They get side-tracked and diverted into ways of strengthening egoism rather then dis-energizing their egoism ( even Tollle admits 95% of material in spiritual book store is counterproductive ) rather then “enlightening” them. ( well it is true their bank accounts get “lighter” 😉 ) So it is essential to appreciate, first and foremost, what you, as a Dual existence, are working with.
But there again I return back to the prayer above …” Everlasting Life, Love and Mercy Manifesting Yourself in Yourself, As your Total Wisdom and the Almightiness.”……which maintains that even that egoism is God because God ( the source of all existence) is within it. So, gratefully, it will as the old folks say, “It will All come out in the wash”, eventually.
Be Well Be Present EdS
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