Although I agree with most of the essay, I still think that feelings of love are very important. As a mother whose now young sons have left home, I think that the feelings of love are what sustain this motherly love. I understand that what I did for them in the end counts more than any feelings I now feel at a distance, but these feelings are real to me and are part of what I count as love. I cannot feel the same for every other person. They are my sons. I understand the point the author is making, but I think feelings are also important.

Thanks for your reply Ed, but I actually very much liked Nicos’s idea about love as action. I only wanted to make the point that feelings too are important, but as I now see, Nicos has addressed this point below by responding to Kopita, who has made the same point as I did. I think in his reply he addressed our point quite well actually. He does not deny the feelings of love, but rather says that if they are TRUE feelings then they always lead to some form of action – in my case, that of my acts as a mother. I can actually relate to that.