Gratitude Lounge Welcome to our community space to support and celebrate Grateful Living. Please consider reflecting on questions such as these: What am I grateful for? How does gratefulness enrich my life, my community, the world? What is grateful living inspiring me to do? You are welcome to include images and videos to illustrate your reflections… Click here to cancel reply.Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment. Notify me when someone replies to my comment via e-mail. Anna6 years agoAnnaDear friends, yesterday Grateful Sea posted wonderful words of gratitude, I was so moved and quickly replied. Then I went to bed, as for me it was very late. But that post is not here now….for some reasons, it has disappeared. I am sorry dear Grateful Sea. A big hug for what you said there. 1 Reply grateful sea6 years agograteful seaDear sweet Anna, I so sorry. It is my own fault the post is gone. I would like to say that I erased it by mistake, but that is not the truth. The truth is I that I deleted the post because I was feeling so exposed. I am so unused to sharing online that I often end up with a powerful backlash of anxiety. It was a bad moment for me that I did not realize would ripple out to you. I am sorry I caused you any concern. A big hug back to you. 2 Reply Aine6 years agoAineIf it helps any, grateful, I have nearly done the same on multiple occasions. And I have found it is usually the posts I thought to delete in my anxiety that provided a deeper blessing to others as well as to me. We really are in this together! 1 Reply grateful sea6 years agograteful seaIt does help, Aine, thank you. 0 Reply Anna6 years agoAnnaDon’t worry for me. I know what you mean, Grateful Sea. I am sorry that you felt so exposed, anyway I have read your words and I treasure them. And I send you another hug again, yet, much more now that I know your anxiety. 1 Reply grateful sea6 years agograteful seaThank you, Anna. Your reply helps me feel it is a new day. 1 Reply Lauren Zalewski6 years agoLauren ZalewskiToday I am grateful for a beautiful day with my daughter who is going back to college in 2 days. My chronic illness often prevents me from having full days, but today I was able to handle going to my fellowship meeting to support a friend, then have lunch with my parents and daughter, and even go to the mall to shop a bit so she could use some gift cards that she'd gotten for Christmas. I'm grateful that my daughter enjoys spending time with me and that I was able to give her my time f... Today I am grateful for a beautiful day with my daughter who is going back to college in 2 days. My chronic illness often prevents me from having full days, but today I was able to handle going to my fellowship meeting to support a friend, then have lunch with my parents and daughter, and even go to the mall to shop a bit so she could use some gift cards that she’d gotten for Christmas. I’m grateful that my daughter enjoys spending time with me and that I was able to give her my time fully. I’m grateful that my pain was not problematic enough for me to have to end the day early. I’m grateful for eyes that see my blessings and a heart that feels it. I’m grateful for this place and for finding all of you fellow gratitude seekers. Have a beautiful day! Read More 3 Reply Aine6 years agoAineI had to reread and check the name to see who posted as your post described something much like what Diane described with a day with her daughter! ???? 0 Reply Anna6 years agoAnnaWelcome Lauren???? 1 Reply grateful sea6 years agograteful seaHello Lauren, welcome to this space. Sounds like a beautiful day, indeed. It is nice to read of. Thank you. 1 Reply THenry6 years agoTHenryHi Lauren, so wonderful that you could spend time with your daughter. As my daughters have grown, with children of their own, I find that I cherish the time I spend with them even more so. It’s a blessing knowing that they truly enjoy spending time with me, as your daughter clearly does with you. “I’m grateful for eyes that see my blessings and a heart that feels it.” Wonderful sentiment Lauren. I thank God each time I walk in the forests, that I have eyes to behold his wondrous creation. 1 Reply Anna6 years agoAnnaOh dear sweet Grateful Sea, I would like that you can feel a hug, a big big hug for you, from me, with all my heart. With love Anna 1 Reply grateful sea6 years agograteful seaThank you, dear Anna. I send a big, big hug back. You are such a kind soul. 0 Reply manda6 years agomandaMiracles - they are in each and every moment <3 A handful of dirt contains more life than humans on our beautiful world. A bald eagle and crows dancing chaperone on a forest drive :) A bear who snuggles up on the couch. Movement - a congested spine can still move in my lovingly mind even when not so gracefully in real space. Love is everywhere; a simple touch within the beauty of our heart, glittering, gold emanating and radiant. I hope your day is full of magic and our beautiful wor... Miracles – they are in each and every moment <3 A handful of dirt contains more life than humans on our beautiful world. A bald eagle and crows dancing chaperone on a forest drive 🙂 A bear who snuggles up on the couch. Movement – a congested spine can still move in my lovingly mind even when not so gracefully in real space. Love is everywhere; a simple touch within the beauty of our heart, glittering, gold emanating and radiant. I hope your day is full of magic and our beautiful world feels magnimous squeezes of love today <3 Read More4 Reply THenry6 years agoTHenryOh Manda, you are a poet………”A bald eagle and crows dancing chaperone on a forest drive ???? A bear who snuggles up on the couch. ” Your sweet heart makes me smile. Sending hugs and love. 3 Reply manda6 years agomandaThank you kind THenry – hugs and love to you my friend <3 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineDear Manda, I love your perspectives! So shining. Soil is fascinating stuff. Such potential in seed and plain ol' dirt! Amazing. We are about to experience a magic wand kind of shift in the weather, from nearly 60F yesterday to about 16F tomorrow with snow on top of ice on top of a lot of rain. I can't say I am thrilled as I rather liked that sixty and sunny bit and basked a bit in the deck greenhouse with a good dog, but I shall take a leaf from your book and do something colorful and t... Dear Manda, I love your perspectives! So shining. Soil is fascinating stuff. Such potential in seed and plain ol’ dirt! Amazing. We are about to experience a magic wand kind of shift in the weather, from nearly 60F yesterday to about 16F tomorrow with snow on top of ice on top of a lot of rain. I can’t say I am thrilled as I rather liked that sixty and sunny bit and basked a bit in the deck greenhouse with a good dog, but I shall take a leaf from your book and do something colorful and tasty. Perhaps a batch of my Butternut Mulligatawny soup? Hmmmm… Read More2 Reply manda6 years agomandaThank you sweetie Aine – your perspective are lovely too! That was quite a drop! This weekend I made butternut squash, caramelized shallot, chard shiitake mushroom pasta and pumpkin chili; your soup sounds just perfect! How is cutie Wilbur doing? Sending oodles of Flagstaff love <3 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineI wound up making a sort of onion sauce over rice as we need to go to the store, and meals are fast reaching the Creative stage. Lol Thank you for asking. Dear Wilbur is recovering well, no ill effects of his dental adventure. He is down to about seven teeth, but I doubt it will let it stop him from enjoying his victuals. ???? He was most glad to be back in his proper spot in front of HIS pellet stove, even if his canine friends did insist on sniffing him and kissing his head. (Do you have ... I wound up making a sort of onion sauce over rice as we need to go to the store, and meals are fast reaching the Creative stage. Lol Thank you for asking. Dear Wilbur is recovering well, no ill effects of his dental adventure. He is down to about seven teeth, but I doubt it will let it stop him from enjoying his victuals. ???? He was most glad to be back in his proper spot in front of HIS pellet stove, even if his canine friends did insist on sniffing him and kissing his head. (Do you have any idea how much effort it takes to get dog schnoodle off one’s left ear?) Read More0 Reply manda6 years agomandaThat sounds amazing Aine! I am in the creative stage too 🙂 I enjoy it – working with a budget and teaching myself new things! I am happy Wilbur continues to recover well – and no clue how much effort it takes to get a dog schnoodle off one’s left ear!?? Do expand or present a photo 🙂 xx 0 Reply THenry6 years agoTHenryGood Morning my friends. Dear Erich, thank you for sharing. I am fairly new to The Lounge, but I can say for certain, that I have found love and support here. A place to share stories, to open my heart, to share my joys, my sorrows, and my fears. No judgment here my friend. Hope When clouds gather Fog creeps in We feel lost Looking towards the horizon Searching for a sign So much noise Too many souls Wandering about Lost Some look to God While others ... Good Morning my friends. Dear Erich, thank you for sharing. I am fairly new to The Lounge, but I can say for certain, that I have found love and support here. A place to share stories, to open my heart, to share my joys, my sorrows, and my fears. No judgment here my friend. Hope When clouds gather Fog creeps in We feel lost Looking towards the horizon Searching for a sign So much noise Too many souls Wandering about Lost Some look to God While others Create their own idols All the while, silently Crying out in desperation I have no answers I barely know the question I know this We must have hope It is our lifeline Our one true thing As they try to take our lives We must, at all cost Never give up T Henry April 11, 2012 Read More3 Reply Erich6176 years agoErich617Thank you for your support. 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineI love that “I have no answers” stanza. Beautiful. ❤️ 0 Reply Eva Liu6 years agoEva LiuBeen thinking alot about kindness lately. Being kind to others. Seeing them around me. Acknowledging them. And thinking recently about being kind to myself and whether I have been taking my own advice. Lately I’ve been leaving my patients with notion of being kind to themselves at least once a day. Yesterday, I got a haircut and I left there feeling so nice and refreshed, spine tingling, and thought, ah! this is nice. I need to remember to be kind to myself as well. 4 Reply manda6 years agomandaOh la la a lovely haircut is just devine! Being kind to yourself is such a beautiful practice Eva. Did you do something kind for yourself today? 0 Reply Patjos6 years agoPatjosI love it when I remember to simply say to myself, hand on heart, “I Love you, Patrick” :))) 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineSuch a powerful exercise! 0 Reply manda6 years agomandaToday Jack bear does NOT wear my t-shirt! His over year long fight with this brown recluse has lessened and a mere pin hole scab is the last of the remains. I believe this is the last - no more tracks for this crooning bear who chased after Subi with me running behind me, arms flailing, a hound howling out the window at him. I have had a forest chaperone of bald eagles, red-tailed hawks, crows, and finches - our beautiful woods received a nice amount of snow and rain for a winter drink - our ... Today Jack bear does NOT wear my t-shirt! His over year long fight with this brown recluse has lessened and a mere pin hole scab is the last of the remains. I believe this is the last – no more tracks for this crooning bear who chased after Subi with me running behind me, arms flailing, a hound howling out the window at him. I have had a forest chaperone of bald eagles, red-tailed hawks, crows, and finches – our beautiful woods received a nice amount of snow and rain for a winter drink – our first this season! Grateful for the kindness of the men at the Tire store and caring coworkers 🙂 A warm bowl of carrot ginger soup and doing a little bit of arm training this night. Moving slow – grateful for this during slumber season <3 Lots of love to you and our amazing world <3 xx Read More4 Reply Aine6 years agoAineHave you ever tried the homeopathic remedy Ledum Palustre on Jack for his bite? That is one often indicated for puncture wounds and is a primary one for fighting Lyme, incidentally. It might take a little detective work to see if things matched up with his symptom picture, but it could help heal any residual effects. I have used homeopathy on my dogs for years. Once a remedy even got an intestinal blockage moving when the vet’s emetic could not, thus averting surgery for our old Lab. (It had... Have you ever tried the homeopathic remedy Ledum Palustre on Jack for his bite? That is one often indicated for puncture wounds and is a primary one for fighting Lyme, incidentally. It might take a little detective work to see if things matched up with his symptom picture, but it could help heal any residual effects. I have used homeopathy on my dogs for years. Once a remedy even got an intestinal blockage moving when the vet’s emetic could not, thus averting surgery for our old Lab. (It had rained after prolonged drought, and the silly idiot tried to eat a whole yard full of fresh grass.) Read More0 Reply manda6 years agomandaI haven’t, but I will look into this. Thank you! Yes, grass is quite tempting for our furry friends – they just know how healing nature is! 0 Reply Anna6 years agoAnnaSweet Ursula how are you going? 0 Reply Ursula6 years agoUrsulaHi Anna, I have just found your post. Well, I have to say that holidays are always stressful for me. We left a couple of days for the lake district near my home town, and I had a big lack of sleep. Our Sunny woke us up at impossible hours, and anyway getting up in the morning during “normal days” is too early for me – I didn’t sleep very well and very much lately. So these past days were very difficult for me. During the holidays my husband went out with the dog most of the time, now i... Hi Anna, I have just found your post. Well, I have to say that holidays are always stressful for me. We left a couple of days for the lake district near my home town, and I had a big lack of sleep. Our Sunny woke us up at impossible hours, and anyway getting up in the morning during “normal days” is too early for me – I didn’t sleep very well and very much lately. So these past days were very difficult for me. During the holidays my husband went out with the dog most of the time, now it is my turn. If I can’t because I want to go to bed again after everybody has left the house, Sunny will destroy our sofa which has bigger and bigger holes … and other things. Sigh! Normally she is a good girl, I have to say. She is a good companion on our walks and can be released sometimes so she can run, and she comes back (sometimes when she is too curious about something I have to wait a little, though ????). Yesterday, I was happy a friend of mine took her for a walk, because I had to stay at home, I didn’t feel well (already the days before, but I thought I had to “perform” normally) … Now I am better and already working again in the household (even yesterday, I did some work because the guys are always soooo slow!), and I also studied with my younger son who had a test today. Now they have left for basketball and taken Sunny along who will go for a walk with my husband. I try to relax, but it isn’t easy for me. Guess what, I have done various washing machines already today! I am praying that my mood and confidence that all will be better soon are improving, because this last time I felt a little discouraged … So your prayers are very welcome! Thank you, Anna! Greetings and blessings to everybody here! I have little energy to post something myself, but when I get news about someone who has improved or found courage here, this is always very de-lightful for me!! See you soon here! Read More2 Reply Sylvie6 years agoSylviedear Ursula, I’m glad to hear/read your voice ! I’d like to ask you s.th. i’m momentarily in Ulm for a conference and remembered the beautiful picture of the madonna , that you shared here with us. do you remember the church where you saw her ? I would like to visit her tomoorow . Have a nice evening 0 Reply Sylvie6 years agoSylvieI have found it ! 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineUrsula, so nice to hear from you! ???? I had wondered where and how you were. Have you tried one of those treat dispensing puzzle type balls for Sunny? The dog has to roll it just the right way to get the treat out, so it keeps them busy. It might buy you some time and help Sunny be intrigued and not bored. Young dogs can get bored easily! If she is not reliable yet left alone, perhaps you could confine her in a room where she cannot do much damage? We do not crate train ours, but we do ... Ursula, so nice to hear from you! ???? I had wondered where and how you were. Have you tried one of those treat dispensing puzzle type balls for Sunny? The dog has to roll it just the right way to get the treat out, so it keeps them busy. It might buy you some time and help Sunny be intrigued and not bored. Young dogs can get bored easily! If she is not reliable yet left alone, perhaps you could confine her in a room where she cannot do much damage? We do not crate train ours, but we do use confinement in rooms. The dog gets more freedom as the reliability of not destroying the place improves. It does not take long, and it can give you some peace of mind to nap if you need without wondering if you will wake up to a dog surrounded by what is left of your sofa cushions. Be sure, too, that nothing with chocolate or xylitol in it is left where she coule get hold of it. Both are toxic to dogs. The xylitol is super scary with less signs, so we won’t even let toothpaste with it in it into the house. If you have a dog park near where she can safely run and play with others, that might help, too. A tired puppy is a good puppy! ???? Mine always get more fractious when they need to run off some energy. Read More0 Reply Anna6 years agoAnnaOh Ursula don't think that you are different from other people. I often feel discouraged when something is going in a way I don't like or I have never thought of. This is our human weakness, my dear friend. Ursula don't feel pressure. If you are tired, don't write. Anyway, I dare to say that despite you are the mum, your sons can help you. Even our sons have to practice their love for their parents, and this means that they can help you .....even with laundry, why not? I imagine that it is h... Oh Ursula don’t think that you are different from other people. I often feel discouraged when something is going in a way I don’t like or I have never thought of. This is our human weakness, my dear friend. Ursula don’t feel pressure. If you are tired, don’t write. Anyway, I dare to say that despite you are the mum, your sons can help you. Even our sons have to practice their love for their parents, and this means that they can help you …..even with laundry, why not? I imagine that it is hard for you to wake up early….it is the same for me. When I have to set off and go far from my home to the destination of the day in my work as a consultant, it is a real sacrifice!!! It is when I dream my resting time like a heaven on earth! Unfortunately, I have a lot to work…..also if some new politicians are speaking and speaking about this matter, focused to win our next elections (????….I am a bit worried about that dear Ursula), I suppose that I will wake up early for a long time! So “gambe in spalla e andiamo avanti” as we say when we want to encourage someone! Bye Ursula, and as always, I believe that here there are fabulous people that enlighten our life, with their resilience against challenges. ????????????????❤ Read More0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineAnd for those of you joining the Science of Happiness course on edX, I have set up a Happiness Group where folks from Gratefulness.org and KindSpring.org can gather together to discuss the course, maybe do a project, but overall connect and enrich our learning experience. It is listed as Gratefulness and KindSpring group. As they say where I grew up, Y’all come! 3 Reply Patjos6 years agoPatjosFound it. I hadn’t activated my account… 0 Reply Patjos6 years agoPatjosHave joined today :))) Where do I find the ‘Happiness Group’ ? 0 Reply manda6 years agomandaSuch a wonderful course Aine! I did this a couple of years ago and really enjoyed it 🙂 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineA huge THANK YOU to all who prayed for or sent positive wishes to my Wilbur. He came through surgery fine, though he now has NO canine teeth left, poor guy. He sometimes looks like the Night Fury dragon, Toothless, in How to Train Your Dragon, so we had called him that in play for some time. Now his nickname fits him all too well! I am hoping his pain levels will now decrease as he had seemed sluggish lately, even for him. (It can be hard to tell with him as he could take the Olympic Gold me... A huge THANK YOU to all who prayed for or sent positive wishes to my Wilbur. He came through surgery fine, though he now has NO canine teeth left, poor guy. He sometimes looks like the Night Fury dragon, Toothless, in How to Train Your Dragon, so we had called him that in play for some time. Now his nickname fits him all too well! I am hoping his pain levels will now decrease as he had seemed sluggish lately, even for him. (It can be hard to tell with him as he could take the Olympic Gold medal in napping.) They did find some elevated blood glucose in his presurgery blood work, so they want to retest in a week. They said it might be because he did not eat before surgery, as they instructed, but I found out that cat blood sugar can spike to 300-400 when they are under stress. Considering what my husband said about the shape he showed up to the vet in, I’d say stress would be a likely culprit. Though how in the world they expect us to get him BACK to the vet in a week for retesting without him being under stress then, too, is a mystery I have not yet solved. THANK YOU again, for your prayers and wishes. This is such a special space in caring for one another and for the animals we love so dearly, too. I am so very thankful that nothing more alarming showed up on his blood work. Read More4 Reply manda6 years agomandaI am so happy to hear the news of your sweet Wilbur Aine!! A Hug my fried <3 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineThank you. He was VERY glad to be home and a bit indignant at not being let out immediately. He was not allowed to roam free until he was well past the anesthesia effects. He calmed a bit after his 103lb buddy stuck a nose by the carrier to say hello, though, as did his buddy. ???????????? 0 Reply THenry6 years agoTHenryGreat News Aine…….. Hang tough Wilbur!! 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineThank You again. He is convalescing in a box full of crumpled paper, one of his happy spots. All sorts of comfy spots available, and he chooses a paperfilled box. Cats!! 0 Reply Sylvie6 years agoSylvieThat’s very, very good news, Aine ! 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineThank you, Sylvie. I have been meaning to ask, what breed is your Awen? Such a sweet little face she has! 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineHis last trip before this, I gave him a big handful of catnip to mellow out with before we left, and that seemed to help I hope the snow has not killed all the leaves off! 0 Reply Anna6 years agoAnnaEric I apologize for the mistakes…I don’t know why but sometimes when I use my smartphone there is something that goes on by its own and the output is different from what I have thought….then when I click for the entry I don’t realize quickly….and there is a little mess! 0 Reply Erich6176 years agoErich617Hello, I would like to share my gratitude for today, but first, I have some explaining to do. Ten years ago--almost to the day--I moved to Southern California for work. It was a big, scary step, but I was at a point in my life and career that I could do it and thought that it would be beneficial. Later that year, my partner came to join me. So much has happened in the ensuing 10 years. For one thing, I developed a life here, a community, and I fell in love with a lot about the city wher... Hello, I would like to share my gratitude for today, but first, I have some explaining to do. Ten years ago–almost to the day–I moved to Southern California for work. It was a big, scary step, but I was at a point in my life and career that I could do it and thought that it would be beneficial. Later that year, my partner came to join me. So much has happened in the ensuing 10 years. For one thing, I developed a life here, a community, and I fell in love with a lot about the city where I live. Career-wise, things have changed, and I ended up in a place I wasn’t expecting. One issue in all this time has been my parents. I am an only child, and they are getting to a point that they need to reconsider their living situation and perhaps a long-term care solution. This is stressful for me because I do feel an obligation to be near them, but that would require at least one of us to make a big move–me now in mid-life or them in late-life. Adding to the stress, my mother has a lot of defense mechanisms that make an open conversation difficult to say the least. (For example, she will not fly in an airplane. I don’t know why because she has never explicitly told me that she will not fly or even hinted at it. Instead, whenever the topic of travel comes up, she expects me to fly or comes up with a justification for driving or taking a train. As a result, she has only come to visit me five times in the 10 years since I moved. Each time, she has driven 3,000 miles each way. But she still will not say that she does not want to fly.) In late 2016, I had a personal crisis of sorts. At the time, I was in a work situation that was toxic and unstable. I was also dealing with some tension in my marriage, and we had started to look at buying a house. I was also still negotiating the situation with my parents. Finally–for a variety of reasons–I reached a breaking point and suddenly began to experience an incredible anxiety and insecurity, something like I’ve never felt before. I was open with the people in my life about what was going on, though I was in the midst of processing it myself. One thing that people asked me was what I was afraid of. At the time, my fears were around issues like money and housing. These fears were, by the way, not completely unfounded, but they were still fears—the anticipation of something bad to come. Nothing “bad” had actually happened. I ended up buying a house, much more quickly than I expected. I thought that I should feel happy, but I was incredibly anxious the entire time. Then, the month after we moved into our new house, I was laid off from work very unexpectedly (I won’t go into any detail about that situation, but—as I said—it was both toxic and unstable). Now I had reason to be afraid. I had just taken on a mortgage and was out of work. I threw myself into looking for work and actually only went a week before I had a freelance job. By the time my severance had run out, I was already temping full-time and had just accepted a new salaried job in a much more positive environment. Overall, not bad but still scary. With the employment and housing situations stabilized, my anxiety continued but started to center on something else: climate change. This has been a concern of mine for decades, but the fear that I experienced was new and—again—not unfounded. Southern California experienced record heatwaves, and we ended the year with massive wildfires. Luckily my house was not close enough to the fire to be affected, but one of my favorite places in the world—Ventura—was, badly. And the photo below is of the road both my partner and I travel into work each day. My partner did not take that photo but was on the road at that time. Each day that the heat continued became grueling for me. I love being outdoors but stepping into the hot air became an assault. I had catastrophic visions of this perpetuating—a burnt-up, dried out, barren, charred wasteland for the rest of time. I had difficulty talking about it. Nobody else quite seemed to understand. Hearing people idly discussing the weather made me depressed, especially their blasé attitudes. I expressed my concerns, and people close to me tried to comfort me by saying that it wasn’t a completely lost cause, that the weather would cool off eventually. But it dragged on. Thanksgiving was the hottest in 140 years. My parents came to stay at my new house for the holidays and have been there since (about three weeks and counting now). Having them there can be frustrating because I can become frustrated with them, and I have to manage my partner’s needs as well. But I have also come to take solace in their presence. I am not sure why, but my fear seems to have eased. This week, we also had a heavy rain storm followed by cool weather. I know that many people are dealing with below freezing temperatures right now and might not want to hear somebody praise the cold, but stepping outside this week has been a joy for me. I savor the crisp air and chance to talk long walks. I want to take this chance to appreciate it, to acknowledge its beauty and bounty while I can. I am struggling with this, though. I am still scared, scared that I will lose this moment that I love. It’s paradoxical. My fear of losing what is right now diminishes my ability to be present and love what is right now. Perhaps sharing my gratitude will help. Thank you for reading. Read More 1 Reply manda6 years agomandaOh dear Erich, I share in this love of our world with you and climate change has been a heavy weight on my heart. I too delight at the cold and snow we just received for our beautiful forest and critters who count on this weather. I am so happy you have cold and are enjoying this change in weather! My husband, who I had the loving treat to spend with 17 years of my life with – my mom never met him. My wedding became all about her and not wanting to drive up a windy road, etc…...Oh dear ... Oh dear Erich, I share in this love of our world with you and climate change has been a heavy weight on my heart. I too delight at the cold and snow we just received for our beautiful forest and critters who count on this weather. I am so happy you have cold and are enjoying this change in weather! My husband, who I had the loving treat to spend with 17 years of my life with – my mom never met him. My wedding became all about her and not wanting to drive up a windy road, etc……Oh dear Erich, I share in this love of our world with you and climate change has been a heavy weight on my heart. I too delight at the cold and snow we just received for our beautiful forest and critters who count on this weather. I am so happy you have cold and are enjoying this change in weather! My husband, who I had the loving treat to spend with 17 years of my life with – my mom never met him. My wedding became all about her and not wanting to drive up a windy road, etc… She does puzzles and watches movies to take her to travel and it is sad as she has the financial means to get on a plane and go and visit these places, but she stays stuck and I can only send her love and be a support while also honoring my heart when she gets stuck in her ways. It is lovely to read of your gratitude – and I find joy knowing it can be found in anything. I had a rough night with an email I received from an organization who I had sent an email about for trying to help an animal in Botswana. This person turned it into about him and was very unkind when I am doing this on my free-time to try and raise awareness for her funding needs so she can live a free life. I let it bother me so, that I went to bed with a headache and woke up feeling emotionally hungover. I took the long way to work, thanking everything I encountered and also thanking this man for his words as I will pay closer attention to my exuberance. As well as thank this man for putting me in touch with some old stuff that I needed to let go of. Sending a hug ???? Read More0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineDear Erich, What I am going to write is coming from someone who has been dealing with anxiety issues since late 2016 as well. I do not know if any of this will resonate with you as your experience may be quite different. Take what fits, and pitch the rest. ;-) Here goes: I, too, went through a numer of major life stressor events over a span of years that could objectively produce an anxious condition. Sometimes life stuff just happens that way. I say that so as not to diminish the realit... Dear Erich, What I am going to write is coming from someone who has been dealing with anxiety issues since late 2016 as well. I do not know if any of this will resonate with you as your experience may be quite different. Take what fits, and pitch the rest. 😉 Here goes: I, too, went through a numer of major life stressor events over a span of years that could objectively produce an anxious condition. Sometimes life stuff just happens that way. I say that so as not to diminish the reality of the fearful things in any way. This is not all in your head, so to speak,. However, the brain’s fear producing mechanism is one sneaky little booger. When we manage to get past one fear, it pulls out another like a rabbit from a magician’s hat. Thus, job loss and mortgage is replaced by wildfires which is supplanted by climate change…and so on. It might be something quite legitimate, something smaller that is catastrophized, or maybe even something off the wall. There are times it seems it does not matter much. It is as if the brain WANTS to stay afraid for some reason. There can be many reasons for this happening. Here are two that I have seen in operation in my own life over the years: One is distraction. When my system wanted to distract me from the truth of my life (for me this was regarding a very dysfunctional and abusive family that I kept right on trying to please) it produced pain and lots of it. Then it added on anxiety about pain and fear of fear of pain…you get the picture. All of it was quite effective at taking the attention from what was really going on underneath and the fact that changes needed to be made. Second is the phenomenon that occurs when we finally reach a place in our lives where we are safe enough to allow anything that was repressed or disassociated to be felt. This can come up like a tsunami of emotion until almost anything feels like a trigger. Without going too far into detail. this was the situation in the end of 2016 for me. What followed was a plunge into profound depression and anxiety issues. As the depression improved, I got stronger, and I found that, for the first time in my life, I was finally safe enough that the old stuff I had disassociated for years came up to be processed. There is a Far Side cartoon that really spoke to me about what I was going through. It is a drawing of a man who is tied into an anxious knot, arms and legs all over, eyes wide with fright. He is standing in front of the snake cage at the zoo. The caption says something like, “After twenty years as janitor in the reptile house, Harold has a cumulative attack of the heebie jeebies.” (my paraphrase) That was basically me. I felt like a complete nutjob a lot of the time as the fear and anxiety I was experiencing had absolutely no basis in the reality of my current situation. I could be sitting quietly in my home surrounded by my dogs, peace abounding, and I would still be a quaking mess, terrified of whatever my brain presented to me. This was all very hard for me because I have always been a person who was able to hold it all together, controlling myself almost mercilessly. I learned early on that controlling my emotions, making them into what was allowed, and controlling my actions to conform to what was considered acceptable was necessary to keep things on as safe a footing as possible. And yet, suddenly, all of my control barriers broke on me, and anxiety ruled without my being able to reel it back in and hide it anymore. In the end, this loss of control has been a good thing, for it has taught me that while control was my coping mechanism, it was also my prison. Now I am learning to be just a normal flawed human being, and it is a wonderful relief! All that to say, my first heartfelt suggestion would be to find yourself a counselor who is trained in doing EMDR. With what you have described, my guess is that there is something deeper, some splinter in your heart, if you will, that is pushing its way to the surface. That is why symptoms keep being produced — something needs compassionate attention. A good counselor with EMDR as a tool will be able to help that come up and out with the least amount of trauma possibilty. EMDR is also relaxing to the system, so it can help your pistons stop hyper firing, thus tamping down anxiety. If you are not doing meditation practice regularly, that would be my next suggestion. Check out Headspace.com. They may still have a special on. He guides you through the exercises so seemlessly that it really makes the learning and doing much easier. Plus, as a sop to my inner Vice Principal, it tracks how long I have meditated and what my run streak of the moment is. 😉 I know you feel like a churned up compost heap at present, but I will leave you with this. Having this come up is a healing threshold for you, a call to a more peacefilled, less anxious life to come. That is part of how gratitude works into anxiety and pain, because in time we will look back and be thankful for the call to peace and calm. If your system saw no problem with the way things are, it would not be trying to get your attention. Healing is simply answering our own cry for help. I don’t know where you stand spiritually, but I will pray for you. I hope that is okay. Learning how to be self-compassionate and understanding as you navigate your way through this, if you will, wildfire of anxiety will move you towards that miraculous regrowth that happens in the forest after the fire is over. Hang in there. It can get far far better than you might ever imagine possible right now. Read More1 Reply Pilgrim6 years agoPilgrimErich, you have been through a lot, and you show significant awareness of what gives you anxiety and also blessing. So much feels tenuous to you, especially because of your very real experiences. May you find your way in this as well as possible, through that which is life-giving to you, even through what may feel like the smallest thing in your practice of gratitude. I just checked out a library book by Dale Carnegie called "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living," so you are not alone in knowin... Erich, you have been through a lot, and you show significant awareness of what gives you anxiety and also blessing. So much feels tenuous to you, especially because of your very real experiences. May you find your way in this as well as possible, through that which is life-giving to you, even through what may feel like the smallest thing in your practice of gratitude. I just checked out a library book by Dale Carnegie called “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living,” so you are not alone in knowing anxiety. I feel your wish to be grateful for and enjoy what feels good. And safe. May you be well, friend, as you navigate this time. Thank you for your willingness to share your heart here. Read More1 Reply Aine6 years agoAineGreat book! I am reading it, too, and mentioned a quote in here recently. I LOVE the fact that it was written during 1937-1944, which was one of the most anxiety producing times on the planet, I’d wager. 1 Reply Anna6 years agoAnnaOh dear Eric, it is such a pain that our world is suffering from this climate change! I am far from you, but I have never known winters like the last three, or four....not cold, few water, as to the snow....when it falls it is followed by rain so is is a real danger! I understand your mood. Being catholic, i know that it is not the end, but sometimes I feel as if wecare on the edge of an apocalyptic soituation and that God is hidden elsewhere, silent and far from us. I also know the struggle ... Oh dear Eric, it is such a pain that our world is suffering from this climate change! I am far from you, but I have never known winters like the last three, or four….not cold, few water, as to the snow….when it falls it is followed by rain so is is a real danger! I understand your mood. Being catholic, i know that it is not the end, but sometimes I feel as if wecare on the edge of an apocalyptic soituation and that God is hidden elsewhere, silent and far from us. I also know the struggle about your family. You are not alone. We human beings have to find a road. Each one. With a new sense of responsibility. Bye dear friend! Read More1 Reply Lauren Zalewski6 years agoLauren ZalewskiHi there! New to the Gratitude Lounge but certainly not new to GRATITUDE as it is a very big part of my life. I run a Facebook group called "Attitude of Gratitude with Chronic Pain" where we focus on learning to live with our conditions using gratitude and positivity. We have a strict 'no-complaining' rule and after 3 years we have over 3.200 members now who say that gratefulness has changed their entire lives and is more effective than any medication or treatment they've ever taken (this... Hi there! New to the Gratitude Lounge but certainly not new to GRATITUDE as it is a very big part of my life. I run a Facebook group called “Attitude of Gratitude with Chronic Pain” where we focus on learning to live with our conditions using gratitude and positivity. We have a strict ‘no-complaining’ rule and after 3 years we have over 3.200 members now who say that gratefulness has changed their entire lives and is more effective than any medication or treatment they’ve ever taken (this is not meant to be in place of medications, however!) I also have a personal website called Gratitude Addict (www.gratitudeaddict.com) and am writing a book based on the wonders of using gratitude to help live in the solution with chronic conditions. If you know of anyone who may need a change in how they live with chronic pain/illness/disability (physical OR emotional pain), feel free to send them our way! https://www.facebook.com/groups/attitudeofgratitudewithchronicpain/ Today I am grateful for access to clean drinking water, to have a day that I can “reboot” as my pain has me struggling a bit today, and I’m grateful to have found this community. I have taken many classes through demo.gratefulness.org, but didn’t know about this lounge. It’s very nice meeting you all! Read More4 Reply manda6 years agomandaI am so happy you are here Lauren! Welcome to this beautiful gratitude group of lovelies <3 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineWelcome! You will find a number of us in here who deal with ongoing pain issues using gratitude and other similar positive approaches. It is a sacred space filled with wonderful people, and I am so blessed to be a part of it! 0 Reply THenry6 years agoTHenryHi Aine, sending positive thoughts and prayers for Wilbur. So true that animals are a wonderful source of healing 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineThank you so much, THenry. Much appreciated! He is a special cat. He even cured me of being allergic to cats, but that is another story. I am hoping my husband remembers to ask whether we are to switch him to all wet food, as it sounds like the poor guy has hardly any teeth left! It has to be genetics as he has always had good food. I swear, with his dental issues, he MUST have a secret stash of Snickers hidden in the basement! I will do an update post for all in a moment. Thank you again... Thank you so much, THenry. Much appreciated! He is a special cat. He even cured me of being allergic to cats, but that is another story. I am hoping my husband remembers to ask whether we are to switch him to all wet food, as it sounds like the poor guy has hardly any teeth left! It has to be genetics as he has always had good food. I swear, with his dental issues, he MUST have a secret stash of Snickers hidden in the basement! I will do an update post for all in a moment. Thank you again! Read More0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineIn case any of you animal lovers visit this morning, please pray/send positive wishes to my cat, Wilbur, whose cuddly mush you have occasionally seen in here. He has dental extraction surgery today. That is not a huge deal, but he also developed a limp. I am concerned and hoping the vet is right and it is, "just a little arthritis." From the first that he wandered up and into our lives, he has been, and is, a healing presence for me. I am so grateful for his gift of sharing life with us!... In case any of you animal lovers visit this morning, please pray/send positive wishes to my cat, Wilbur, whose cuddly mush you have occasionally seen in here. He has dental extraction surgery today. That is not a huge deal, but he also developed a limp. I am concerned and hoping the vet is right and it is, “just a little arthritis.” From the first that he wandered up and into our lives, he has been, and is, a healing presence for me. I am so grateful for his gift of sharing life with us! As he is just ten, I hope to have him a good few years yet. At the rate he conserves energy, he ought to come close to outliving God, if I may be flip. Thank you to all who remember my kitty today — and his concerned owners. Read More 9 Reply Pilgrim6 years agoPilgrimAine, wishing Wilbur and you all the best during today’s procedure and the days to follow. 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineThank you! I am grateful that he is so laid back that it has been no problem to give him his antibiotics. We let it soak into some chicken meat, and he gobbles it right down. This is so helpful. Giving medicines to cats is often fraught with peril, as they say. 0 Reply Anna6 years agoAnnaHi Aine, how is it going? 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineThank you! Update will be posted to all on Wilbur. 1 Reply ricardostepsup6 years agoricardostepsupGood luck, Wilbur! I hope all goes well. 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineIt went well. I will post update above to all. 🙂 My heart is heavy over your Bobo. I am praying! 0 Reply Cintia6 years agoCintiaHello Aine! Hope everything will be ok! 1 Reply Aine6 years agoAineThank you, Cintia! I will post an update above. 🙂 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineAnnouncement! I would like to let you all know about a free course being offered by The Greater Good Science Center at Berkley through edX classes. It is available as a certificate course for those in the field, but for people like me, free is fine! I joined yesterday, and the class just started Monday. Joining now would be fine! It looks like a great course. One thing you can do is to form Happiness Groups which will allow for more interaction in a smaller setting during the course, so ... Announcement! I would like to let you all know about a free course being offered by The Greater Good Science Center at Berkley through edX classes. It is available as a certificate course for those in the field, but for people like me, free is fine! I joined yesterday, and the class just started Monday. Joining now would be fine! It looks like a great course. One thing you can do is to form Happiness Groups which will allow for more interaction in a smaller setting during the course, so if any of you join, please speak up so we can make a group together. The data from the weekly course check-ins is stripped of identifiers and used to help the Center with their ongoing studies of happiness and what that means to the greater society. It does however, move along with you in the course so you can chart how your happiness score improves over the duration of the course. I hope some of you will join. It looks like it is going to be good! Read More1 Reply Lauren Zalewski6 years agoLauren ZalewskiAnd I would love to join a happiness group with you if the offer is still open. 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineI just posted the name of the group above. It is the Gratefulness and KindSpring group in the Happiness Groups area. 🙂 0 Reply Lauren Zalewski6 years agoLauren ZalewskiAwesomesauce! I’ll go try to find it now! Thanks! 1 Reply Aine6 years agoAineSure! That will be fun. I will go on there and check out how to set that up. I probably better see what name it posts me as on there, too, so you can find me! 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineAnd here is the link: https://www.edx.org/course/science-happiness-uc-berkeleyx-gg101x-6 1 Reply Lauren Zalewski6 years agoLauren ZalewskiThank you so very much for posting this! I just signed up so I can better educate myself which will allow me to better help my followers in “Attitude of Gratitude with Chronic Pain” and Gratitude Addict. This course looks wonderful!!! 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineI am quite excited by it. The time per week is said to be 4-5 hours, but my guess is that it is an average depending on how fast one reads or thinks about the answers. 😉 0 Reply Sylvie6 years agoSylvieGood morning to this beautiful community, after a very refreshing holiday in Italy (making new memories, as Manda said) and a visit from my dear brother, whom I hadn't seen for 1 1/2 years , we've started work again. I'm very grateful for this work with my stunning , courageus young patients. And i'm also very grateful that little Awen accompanies there. When we drive in the car into town, the last part she stands at the window, wiggling her tail and barking out the window, like saying "here we ... Good morning to this beautiful community, after a very refreshing holiday in Italy (making new memories, as Manda said) and a visit from my dear brother, whom I hadn’t seen for 1 1/2 years , we’ve started work again. I’m very grateful for this work with my stunning , courageus young patients. And i’m also very grateful that little Awen accompanies there. When we drive in the car into town, the last part she stands at the window, wiggling her tail and barking out the window, like saying “here we come, hello, hello…” Read More4 Reply manda6 years agomandaSo wonderful sweetie Sylvie!! Your patients are lucky to have you in their lives <3 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineDogs just help to soften the universe somehow, don’t they? 1 Reply Sylvie6 years agoSylvieAbsolutely right, Aine. And whenever I lost one, I felt for quite a while, how much colder it is without them. 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineYes, it definitely is. Mine are nowhere near so small as yours, but they will insist on trying to pretend they are an eight pound Papillion instead of 50 and 60lb Lab mix sisters and a 103 Anatolian Shepherd. A warm Labrador mix across ones lap is warmth indeed! 0 Reply THenry6 years agoTHenrySo true Sylvie. I just returned from a 3 mile hike in the state forest near my home, missing my Pepper each and every step. She is with me in my heart, each and every day 1 Reply Sylvie6 years agoSylvie♥️ for you and Pepper 0 Reply Aine6 years agoAineYou make me want to send you a hug, THenry. I know how that loss hurts. 🙁 1 Reply Anna6 years agoAnnaMany blessings dear Sylvie. I started my work again just Monday. I am glad you had a good time of holidays in Italy, I hope you enjoyed what you visited… Now I am going to work….many greetings dear friend! 1 Reply Sylvie6 years agoSylvieDear Anna, we had a very good time in Rome!!! Most of the time we walked through town (with the dog I couldn't go into Churches, Museums..) the jewish part, Trastevere, Plaza Garibaldi with this beatiful view over Rome .,and lots of the historic buildings. St. Peters ! But most of all was I impressed, one day, when I had left the dog home, and I stumbled into "chiesa di Sant'Ignazia di Loyola". stunning church, and they exhibited a work of art, sorry had forgotten my handy so I cant remember ... Dear Anna, we had a very good time in Rome!!! Most of the time we walked through town (with the dog I couldn’t go into Churches, Museums..) the jewish part, Trastevere, Plaza Garibaldi with this beatiful view over Rome .,and lots of the historic buildings. St. Peters ! But most of all was I impressed, one day, when I had left the dog home, and I stumbled into “chiesa di Sant’Ignazia di Loyola”. stunning church, and they exhibited a work of art, sorry had forgotten my handy so I cant remember the artists name. It was a round churchroof, and around the roof he build all the churches he knew of, out of tiny little wooden pieces, carved himself everything, to symbolize the unity of all beliefs. he started when he was 70, finished it short before his death with 98. I still get goosebumps when I write about it. when you go to trip advisor and search for the name of the church, there you can find a picture of this world church. Dear Anna, I wish you a a marvellous day in your beatiful country ! many greetings dear friend Read More1 Reply manda6 years agomandaMy post was hijacked to the cyber world, and I am grateful for what I shared – it meant a lot to me share those words though they most likely will stay in cyberspace 🙂 What else is there to do but love <3 Hearty, magical, loving wishes to you and our wonderful world <3 5 Reply Aine6 years agoAineI’ve had that happen, too, Manda! It happened so often for awhile that I was getting a touch paranoid. So…have you baked anything awesome lately? Since I can no longer eat wheat, allow me to live vicariously through your amazing creations! 1 Reply manda6 years agomandaI have dear Aine, thank you for asking! I made whole wheat sourdough – purple barley and red fife 🙂 AZ wheat is quite thirsty and made this at almost 100% hydration! 0 Reply Sylvie6 years agoSylvieDear Manda, I’m sure your words will get to us, spoken, heard, felt…. a warm hug from the old world 2 Reply manda6 years agomandaA loving hug to you Sylvie <3 0 Reply THenry6 years agoTHenryStars The city steals them away Seek the path less traveled As the embers die You will be in awe God’s nightlite So many, too few Spend a lifetime Counting blessings As you gaze Heavenward Climb the tallest peak Reach beyond who you are You may just touch one Forever changed I’ve been to a town Muddy in spring Too many folk to suit me All I ask is this Quiet Solitude Running spring Mountain Stars T Henry March 13, 2012 3 Reply Aine6 years agoAineLovely, THenry. I especially enjoyed this stanza: As you gaze Heavenward Climb the tallest peak Reach beyond who you are You may just touch one Forever changed Beautiful! 0 Reply THenry6 years agoTHenryThank you so much Aine. Thoughts and prayers for Wilbur today. 0 Reply Patjos6 years agoPatjosI hope you don’t mind, but I’ve scheduled (17th Jan) your poem t appear on our poetry blog over at https://mondaysletsgetthroughthistogether.blogspot.co.uk/