Daily Question, July 22 If I really believed that I have everything I need, what would I do next? 42 Reflections Share Click here to cancel reply.Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment. Notify me when someone replies to my comment via e-mail. Hot Sauce7 years agoHot SauceI would perform faith healings, travel the world, buy all kinds of books, end global hunger, create world peace, end the environmental crisis, change Donald Trump’s heart, channel inner knowledge, meet people around the world to learn from them and share my own knowledge with them, act as a Socrates figure always questioning people’s ideas even if it “disturbs the peace,” practice leadership, and share secret wisdom with anyone ready for it. 1 Reply Deb S. N.C.7 years agoDeb S. N.C.SHARE KNOWLEDGE! People are out there needing support, others who can guide them, using kindness as you help or share your own life. We all are about how to achieve goals of various types, and expand our minds, perhaps as well as honing their lives and skills needing less tools in the box. It’s how I have learned to find and design, work, plan, work toward being organized- through people I love, know, or hire, including online sites I read or blog with and such. My yoga and knowledge of me... SHARE KNOWLEDGE! People are out there needing support, others who can guide them, using kindness as you help or share your own life. We all are about how to achieve goals of various types, and expand our minds, perhaps as well as honing their lives and skills needing less tools in the box. It’s how I have learned to find and design, work, plan, work toward being organized- through people I love, know, or hire, including online sites I read or blog with and such. My yoga and knowledge of meditation has been learned from people as well as books, online blogs and sites, and I have found much help in my years studying and practicing this beautiful practice.. Through my focus I am more concentrated now on simplifying and organizing what I need in terms of things, using them to design our home, and prioritizing my needs in life:to make it a path that is amazing always, incredible, beautiful, spiritual, that provides a never-ending journey that always is open to new ideas or concepts. I believe to maintain this kind of life with gratitude at the core, my growing love of myself and of others is enough. Read More1 Reply kathleen7 years agokathleenIf I really believed that I have everything I need I would be more grateful. I would act from there. I would be more present with what I have and treasure the present moment. 1 Reply Mary7 years agoMaryThe main thing I wish I had more of is time. The second thing I wish I had more of is energy. A distant third would be money. I do have enough money as long as I continue to work. I would have more energy if I stressed less and went to bed earlier. I guess I would have more time if I was more organized and had better self discipline. So it appears that all that l want more of is mine to be had. Blah. Maybe I should try again. If I really believed that I have everything I need, what wou... The main thing I wish I had more of is time. The second thing I wish I had more of is energy. A distant third would be money. I do have enough money as long as I continue to work. I would have more energy if I stressed less and went to bed earlier. I guess I would have more time if I was more organized and had better self discipline. So it appears that all that l want more of is mine to be had. Blah. Maybe I should try again. If I really believed that I have everything I need, what would I do next? I would paint more as well as getting more involved with photography. I would spend more time with family and friends as well as more time with my husband. I would even snuggle with my cats more. I would probably go back to church. I guess that is about it. I could have a better life. This requires that I work on myself a lot, especially in the areas of stress management, self discipline and organization. So I think I have ended up with pretty much the same answer that I came up the first time around. Hmmm. Mary Read More1 Reply Palm7 years agoPalmMary, you made me smile ???? and, like Anna, I loved your post and honesty because I can relate so much! Yes, you are not alone and thank you for your courage, I couldn’t even know how to answer this question 0 Reply Mary7 years agoMaryThank you so much, Palm for your encouragement. You, like Anna are always so very kind. I have seen your kindness over and over in so many of your responses. Bless you. Mary 1 Reply Aine7 years agoAineOh, dear Mary, you are not alone. Even the Apostle Paul used to lament that the good he wanted to do he didn't do and the bad he didn't want to do was what he did! Do please leave room in all of it for grace and compassion toward yourself as well, though. I am learning that self-compassion is a huge key to getting any positive changes we make to stick. Self-compassion is not something I have ever done very well at all, and what I am finding is that my old ways will not work anymore. I ap... Oh, dear Mary, you are not alone. Even the Apostle Paul used to lament that the good he wanted to do he didn’t do and the bad he didn’t want to do was what he did! Do please leave room in all of it for grace and compassion toward yourself as well, though. I am learning that self-compassion is a huge key to getting any positive changes we make to stick. Self-compassion is not something I have ever done very well at all, and what I am finding is that my old ways will not work anymore. I applied the old patterns of my Inner Drill Sergeant to my healing work as well, plowing through it as if I had to get acres of oats planted before sundown using only a three legged horse. In reality, I have gotten further faster by allowing the change to happen and loving myself along the way rather than demanding that it, and I, get with the program. My life is changing for the better and doing so more quickly the more I am learning to be kind to myself. I don’t know if this helps. Maybe it is the difference between deciding to go to bed at X time so that you can store up enough energy to do all your tasks the next day well versus setting the loving boundary of going to bed at X time, snuggling with the cats and the husband, and sleeping that set number of hours so that you will be rested, nourished, replenished, and healthy. Both accomplish getting sleep, but the first puts the emphasis on what others needs while the second puts the emphasis on what you need. Read More1 Reply Mary7 years agoMaryYes, yes, and yes. Being kind to myself and having true self compassion are absolutely key for me. And yes, getting this night owl to bed earlier out of love and to keep myself happy and healthy feels so much better than doing so in a forceful way. Thank you Aine for caring. Mary 1 Reply Aine7 years agoAineRemember, too, Mary, that you are not alone in this quest! My husband and I (to name only two!) are also working at change and sometimes not feeling happy with our progress. It’s rather like untangling a necklace sometimes, I think. We see an end result we don’t like and wish to change, our “knot” if you will. Then we have to trace back every little strand and knot that goes to make up the whole snarl, separate the parts, and hold them gently as we unsnarl the next bit. Pull too hard o... Remember, too, Mary, that you are not alone in this quest! My husband and I (to name only two!) are also working at change and sometimes not feeling happy with our progress. It’s rather like untangling a necklace sometimes, I think. We see an end result we don’t like and wish to change, our “knot” if you will. Then we have to trace back every little strand and knot that goes to make up the whole snarl, separate the parts, and hold them gently as we unsnarl the next bit. Pull too hard or go too fast, and the snarl reacts by getting tighter and more snarly. That is the part I am rather bad at, really, but I am working on it, pulling too hard too fast, being impatient rather than giving myself grace and space to change. I am grateful to see the need for change, though, since without it I would just keep doing what is not working for me at all! ???? I wish you all the best. You are SO not alone!! ???? Read More0 Reply Anna7 years agoAnnaMary, I love this! I love your honest thought, and it seems when I honestly speak with my friends. Mary you are not alone. 1 Reply Mary7 years agoMaryThank you so much Anna for your response. In my ill advised way I was just comparing my post to others and wondering why my posts often seem to me to be the cry baby posts? I was second guessing myself for not being spiritual and wise enough and for not coming out and saying that of course I have every thing that I need. I get confused about the difference between being authentic and just being a complainer. But I thank you Anna for being a comfort to me and for always, always, always bein... Thank you so much Anna for your response. In my ill advised way I was just comparing my post to others and wondering why my posts often seem to me to be the cry baby posts? I was second guessing myself for not being spiritual and wise enough and for not coming out and saying that of course I have every thing that I need. I get confused about the difference between being authentic and just being a complainer. But I thank you Anna for being a comfort to me and for always, always, always being so kind. Much love to you always, Mary Read More3 Reply Aine7 years agoAineOh, Mary, I never see your posts that way! Where did you get that idea? If it helps any, I found the question tricky, too. I thought of the things in my life I want to change, but then I thought, too, of what has changed. It was a mishmash, but it worked out in the end. 😉 1 Reply Mary7 years agoMaryThanks Aine. Yes this question seemed easy but when I started applying it to my life to determine what I would do, anything other than what I wrote just felt untrue. Why would I believe I had everything I needed when I know how tired I get. But a simpler and truer answer to this question is probably that I do have everything I need. And the answer to the what would I do part of the question would still be learn to go to bed earlier, learn to manage my stress better, and learn to be more orga... Thanks Aine. Yes this question seemed easy but when I started applying it to my life to determine what I would do, anything other than what I wrote just felt untrue. Why would I believe I had everything I needed when I know how tired I get. But a simpler and truer answer to this question is probably that I do have everything I need. And the answer to the what would I do part of the question would still be learn to go to bed earlier, learn to manage my stress better, and learn to be more organized. It is not saving the world, but believing I have everything I need doesn’t mean I no longer need to do my own work on myself. Thanks again Aine for being there for me. Much love to you. Mary Read More2 Reply Aine7 years agoAineI probably do have everything I need, basics wise and a few perks, to boot. And I am very grateful because it was only a short while ago when this was a much scarier proposition for us. That said, we are also in a time of transition and change, with some major mountains to climb, which makes it harder to focus on the fact that our needs are met. It is too easy to look at what remains to be done rather than what has been done or is being done. We sweat the smaller things, losing sight of the mo... I probably do have everything I need, basics wise and a few perks, to boot. And I am very grateful because it was only a short while ago when this was a much scarier proposition for us. That said, we are also in a time of transition and change, with some major mountains to climb, which makes it harder to focus on the fact that our needs are met. It is too easy to look at what remains to be done rather than what has been done or is being done. We sweat the smaller things, losing sight of the most important needs of all that are abundantly met: we are Loved, held, supported, and encased in Love; through humans or animals, in the arms of beautiful nature, and over all, in all, through all, with the overarching Love that the Divine has for us. So what would I do next if I could wrap my brain around the concept that I really do have everything I need? Well, I might relax more and not worry so much! Read More2 Reply Anna7 years agoAnnaOh yes, Aine, like the lilies in the field ???? (Yours, for instance!) or the sparrows in the sky…. 1 Reply Aine7 years agoAine“Be of good cheer then, you are worth far more than many sparrows!” 1 Reply Michael7 years agoMichaelI lack for nothing except peace of mind regarding how the world has been arcing since 1619 towards where we are right now. I share what I have, I work daily to push the needle towards no one lacking food, shelter, health. I write, call, tweet, email those "in power" to see the errors of "the system". I write ebooks n teach classes n do counseling groups to show how to not give up nor give in that "the system" will win. I gain personal strength from this site and the voices it gives platform ... I lack for nothing except peace of mind regarding how the world has been arcing since 1619 towards where we are right now. I share what I have, I work daily to push the needle towards no one lacking food, shelter, health. I write, call, tweet, email those “in power” to see the errors of “the system”. I write ebooks n teach classes n do counseling groups to show how to not give up nor give in that “the system” will win. I gain personal strength from this site and the voices it gives platform to. none of this is enough. however, despair is never an option and I am thankful for the relative freedom I have because of where I landed on this earth. I just want everyone to have it, too. Read More2 Reply Deb S. N.C.7 years agoDeb S. N.C.Michael, you are amazing doing this- it is a much-needed person like you that will help in efforts to save us from ourselves, our President, and switching gears toward helping those firstly in need of the basics, as you say- very very needed right now. Everyone can find a single way if that is a start, find it. Everyday, contribute some writing, sharing articles and journalism especially now as facts that we were receiving hints about before are now truth with sources to be learned about. I a... Michael, you are amazing doing this- it is a much-needed person like you that will help in efforts to save us from ourselves, our President, and switching gears toward helping those firstly in need of the basics, as you say- very very needed right now. Everyone can find a single way if that is a start, find it. Everyday, contribute some writing, sharing articles and journalism especially now as facts that we were receiving hints about before are now truth with sources to be learned about. I also want everyone to have the mind-set you describe, yet I know there are still many people who will either never be convinced that change is due now, and then others who are the victims of this world sadly and literally starving without the resources or knowledge of how to receive them. Thanks for this. I have MISSED writing here! Read More0 Reply Anna7 years agoAnnaLike Palm, I am so moved Michael. 0 Reply Mary7 years agoMaryYour well founded concern reminds me of the age old question,”Why do bad things happen to good people? I agree with what you have so beautifully shared. Bless you Michael for caring so much! Mary 0 Reply Palm7 years agoPalmI am moved by your post Michael, thank you 0 Reply Deb7 years agoDebLike Kevin and Christina, I believe I have everything I need. What comes next is an appreciation of that and a settling into using what I have without striving, seeking and grasping for more. 0 Reply Gina7 years agoGinalove quote today from David Whyte….. with courage and compassion, I have everything and what is next, is what is next………..that is the vulnerability of life……………….. 5 Reply Deb S. N.C.7 years agoDeb S. N.C.Gina, are you familiar with his writings, poetry and prose? When I first saw one of his poems here, on my daily OM email to read, sometimes share, I flipped out! I have been reading his work, going to his weekend appearances in Charleston, S. C. a few hours from home, for over a few years. Yes I saw that one today, also. I am a fan! 0 Reply Gina7 years agoGinayes, love his work, You are so lucky to be able to go to his appearances.. I dream of going on one of his guided trips….. I must check and be sure I am on his E-mail list… 1 Reply Deb S. N.C.7 years agoDeb S. N.C.Hi, Gina, nice to find another fan here. I am totally blessed. Also do find his site, called "Rivers Run... ?" sorry, something , just do search you will see it, when you google him as it stands out w/ the word "Rivers". It is the one he explained to me to find & order books, and where he could be more easily caught to sign them for me. A dear person, typically shy I can see that, and yet so at ease talking, quoting most of his work by total memory, reading some of the newer things- we lear... Hi, Gina, nice to find another fan here. I am totally blessed. Also do find his site, called “Rivers Run… ?” sorry, something , just do search you will see it, when you google him as it stands out w/ the word “Rivers”. It is the one he explained to me to find & order books, and where he could be more easily caught to sign them for me. A dear person, typically shy I can see that, and yet so at ease talking, quoting most of his work by total memory, reading some of the newer things- we learned about his life, painful times of depression and bouts of not able to write, great times with then the loss of his closest friend who was a Priest and also Irish, (they walked those craggy paths to the pubs and such!), I know you have read some about Michael. IF you do go, I will love to hear from you! I also have been wanting to do this, if it is in anyway possible for people like me who were always athletic, strong spirited and in Faith, now cannot do the long walking nor carrying heavy things since my spine has a degenerative disc disorder – I may not even qualify! If it were you, I would find the money, doing anything it took to make it, pray to be accepted, and go for it! I can only dream I fear. His writing about his beloved daughter, when she was a small baby or child, the light of his life – so beautiful. His obvious devotion to his work and audience keeps one’s attention, left wanting more. His first book Jim liked very much, “The Heart Aroused”, given to him by a colleague in the company’s learning and education department, as they were close in both age, at the time were doing similar work, and apparently had very similar values while working within large corporations. I had not seen nor read him until the day I had a pair of tickets to take a close friend living there in S. C. and we were mesmerized as two days flew by with listening to and having brief chats with him as he signed some books for us. He often posts his work on Facebook. I am surprised lately to see less of that, and I share any he puts up always with a perfect work of art along with. I don’t think I have ever met someone in a different venue like this before, who knew of him! I was thrilled to see that among our daily quotes sent by email, from Gratefulness site, 2 have been by him. Best of luck to see him! I have more stories of him, his home at Whidbey Island north of Seattle, Wa., where he hosted a group Jim had attended set up at a rustic camp on the island, where people met and not sure why as he , David, would entertain, do some reading, and leave them off to themselves- he was a catalyst I suppose. Jim has a group of a few there that formed and get together, on Skype and in person, to work on various projects and/or write, discuss, creative work about a mission they may do. Take care! Thanks for letting me write!~ Read More0 Reply Christina7 years agoChristinaAs with Kevin, I too believe I have everything I need, except maybe for approval, which seems to be a bottomless pit! 2 Reply Palm7 years agoPalmDear Christina, funny today I read again a quote by Glennon Doyle on her fb page, which is helping me with my feeling of needing approval: “The most revolutionary thing a woman can do is not ask permission — and then not explain herself” Not always possible, I know… ie. at the workplace…. I really enjoy your posts, Palm ???? 3 Reply Deb S. N.C.7 years agoDeb S. N.C.Hi, Palm, I love that- the other thing that a woman can do is to not be always saying " I am sorry!", in particular, when it is not even appropriate, plus as you just wrote, to not explain herself! Thanks, languaging is important, how we say things reflects who we are when often it is not even true. To stop saying, "trying", as in " I am trying to work on that...", and say instead, "I am working on that...". is another example of using positive stronger words that can change our lives and those... Hi, Palm, I love that- the other thing that a woman can do is to not be always saying ” I am sorry!”, in particular, when it is not even appropriate, plus as you just wrote, to not explain herself! Thanks, languaging is important, how we say things reflects who we are when often it is not even true. To stop saying, “trying”, as in ” I am trying to work on that…”, and say instead, “I am working on that…”. is another example of using positive stronger words that can change our lives and those of others. I have found myself saying how sorry I am all of my life! Read More1 Reply Palm7 years agoPalmHi, Deb, yes to your reminders too, thank you ???? 1 Reply Deb S. N.C.7 years agoDeb S. N.C.Glad to meet you and am wondering if you were here before I took a few months off- I was new at the time, and now am working back into a routine including writing, reading, sharing here as a part of my gratitude daily, as well as learning of others’ lives while I attempt to contain my love for connecting and creative writing, as well! 0 Reply Christina7 years agoChristinaIt’s true, Palm..very hard to do, especially at work where “There’s no communication!” is such a frequent complaint! 1 Reply Aine7 years agoAineI like that quote! 1 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinAt this point in time I actually do believe that I have everything I need. And I am also thinking of “what comes next” and what I would like to do next. Fortunately for me, the “we” in my life is larger than the “I” of what I may want, as we, my wife and myself, consider the future. And while nothing is baked in yet, it’s a gift just to be able to have the future to think about. – Kevin 5 Reply Deb S. N.C.7 years agoDeb S. N.C.Every day we wake to our first morning breath, is a gift to be grateful for. You as always, are one of my favorite people, Kevin, I am grateful for you. 0 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinHello Deb…you are very kind…thank you. I was in Ashville two years ago for a photographer’s workshop, and wondering if you are anywhere near there? It is a wonderful town. 1 Reply Deb S. N.C.7 years agoDeb S. N.C.YES, my own Mom, RIP, grew up in Canton, N. C. near Asheville so we would make that trip often from our childhood hometown, Reidsville, N. C. It is dear to me still! We are not far , about 3 hours from our farm, taking I-40W. Our farmhouse is 9 mi. w. of Chapel Hill. I do love the water, as well, and was happy to see your photos, sending still prayers for your healing and comfort. It was like coming to home when I began writing here again, and seeing you after months being away, it felt li... YES, my own Mom, RIP, grew up in Canton, N. C. near Asheville so we would make that trip often from our childhood hometown, Reidsville, N. C. It is dear to me still! We are not far , about 3 hours from our farm, taking I-40W. Our farmhouse is 9 mi. w. of Chapel Hill. I do love the water, as well, and was happy to see your photos, sending still prayers for your healing and comfort. It was like coming to home when I began writing here again, and seeing you after months being away, it felt like picking up where we left off though much has happened to us all, I love this groups so much- safely writing, and friending people online is something I enjoy. Anyway, joy, I remembered your then-upcoming surgery. Loved the photo,it was great! I am a mountain and landlubber by birth, married my husband who is a coastal native, sailor and surfer, from Jacksonville, N. C., he was an under-grad. @ UNC-W N. C. We met when he was in his last year earning his MSW, UNC-Chapel Hill. A sailboat with our later young family aboard was a consistent passion and part of life. I always did and still treasure that time now , with our kids, their friends, when young as well as still now with them as adult-kids, on any or most available vacations. It did not really matter which of the stepping stones of 3 boats we were aboard. Each one was a bit longer, easier to keep under balance, offering more space for speed outside or below, for sleeping and living. We, mainly Jim, learned to handle them with many passages aboard, then every five or ten yrs. we felt ready for a bit larger boat to accommodate our desired longer trips.. There is a consistent pattern though we look at dozens sometimes, of choosing older-built classic sailboats but that are in tremendous shape because an owner, or more than one, took care of it. Now we are often taking daytrips and longer, on our 42′ S. V. Shamrock , of a noble older type my husband could tell in detail about. We looked at her a few years across the creek in her slip from our’s, knew the owner who was always working aboard, and he eventually decided to sell her. It was meant to be. She is one of perhaps 2,000 or less of this model built , made in the ’70’s and has circumnavigated the globe w/ her previous owner. The Shamrock is 2 1/2 hrs. from the farm along the ICW near our beach (home for sell). I love now being in-between the coast, and our family’s farm of 25 years, where we are setting up house again now. I loved living in the Blue Ridge Mountains, during my college years, working during summers and an in-between year when I needed time off to be decided and committed to my major. I was surprised on a weekend trip to Asheville last year, to see the amount of roads, out-lying towns, around Asheville, as well as Boone and Blowing Rock which means highly developed in just the last 10-20 years. Still, you find the same streets with the history originally learned, and will always find an amazing downtown center, which draws creative people, artists – including as you know- photographers, and musicians all who seem to have always been drawn there. There are now more yogis, healers, spiritual and religious centers that have historically called this area home. We are more comfortable now knowing that home is where our pillows lie, especially if tucked in anchorages along our coastline where the sea turtles are spotted as they swim to the surface and take an audible breath with the sunrise, and wild ponies are seen on the more-inland islands near Beaufort, N. C. place. The few passages we have also taken to Charleston, S. C. have been equally as incredible. Please do write about where you do the rowing! I know that it would be forbidden for me to take out my kayak, so this morning’s gratitude is for the many things I can experience, leaving the blue water sailing to others, sailing along the calmer waters, though look forward to traveling and perhaps being an on-boat-docks yoga instructor before too long, as I practice here in N. C. My back’s “issues”,( as we call it in yoga where all things are positive and possible), are different than yours’ and I so am wishing you a speedy recovery and that you are able to one day return to what you love about your life in any form or fashion. It will always be a wonderful experience for you whether along the docks, riding along, or rowing your way when you are able to! THAT will be a photo to post! Namaste’ Read More0 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinHello Deb, such a beautiful life story here. Thank you! My wife comes from a boating family and when I was young my mom and dad used to sail in small sailboats all around Boston Harbor. But I have no memory of that, actually. I farmed for a number of years before becoming a social worker and Quaker minister, and while we have always owned something that floated, we've never gotten into bigger craft due to time constraints and expenses. We have a 18' Boston Whaler, that sadly has sat for five yea... Hello Deb, such a beautiful life story here. Thank you! My wife comes from a boating family and when I was young my mom and dad used to sail in small sailboats all around Boston Harbor. But I have no memory of that, actually. I farmed for a number of years before becoming a social worker and Quaker minister, and while we have always owned something that floated, we’ve never gotten into bigger craft due to time constraints and expenses. We have a 18′ Boston Whaler, that sadly has sat for five years unused due to my back issues. Even as my back improves, however, I don’t think that we will keep the boat. Living very near to the ocean, our whole family are beach goers and beach walkers which we all enjoy a lot. I have been rowing with Whaling City Rowing in New Bedford, MA for 17 years and with my team, the Gray Buzzards, for all of those years. We row in and around New Bedford Harbor and along the New England coast during races, etc, now and then. One of our team members, Doretta, is a therapist and yoga instructor and she sometimes leads dockside yoga sessions following some of our rows. She and I are planning to create a special type of rowing schedule that is as much about meditation, breath, deep listening, five-minute journaling, as it is paying attention to rowing speed and so forth. Time will tell how that turns out! My best, take care! Read More0 Reply Aine7 years agoAineYes, Kevin, I agree. We do not always remember that our next breath is not a given, and that we all have a shelf life, even if our sell by date sticker is positioned so we cannot see it. 😉 It is indeed something to fill our hearts with gratitude to have someone we love dearly and a future to look toward. 0 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinHi Aine, oh, I love the metaphor that you use here….as a person who has done a stint in business in retail food sales many years ago, my writing juices are flowing!! Would you mind if the leading continued and I wrote about it on my blog and gave you credit for the idea? 1 Reply Aine7 years agoAineI am honored you liked my goofy little metaphor and wish to credit me. Sure, write away, and enjoy it! 😀 0 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinThanks, Aine! 0 Reply My Private Gratitude Journal Write an entry in your private gratefulness journal Get Started This site is brought to you by A Network for Grateful Living, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit. All donations are fully tax deductible in the U.S.A. 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