Daily Question, June 9 What “limiting beliefs” do I wish to move beyond? What might help me do this? 44 Reflections Share Click here to cancel reply.Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment. Notify me when someone replies to my comment via e-mail. oppressedtoaster7 years agooppressedtoasterMy limiting belief is the belief that I am okay. It is healthy, I believe to have a supportive self image. However, I have noticed how much I have been neglecting while bound under the spell of comfort. I am glad to have become aware of my presence in Deborah’s beautiful inspiring life as a single mother. The truth is here, and I am not okay. I smile regardless ( : 1 Reply Palm7 years agoPalmHave been touched by all the reflections shared and, after thinking for a while, a limiting belief I’d most like to move beyond is that I will be loved/ liked less for speaking my mind and being who I am. What might help is practice (as with everything), to face the fear and do it anyway, accept the losses, if any, and move towards a more genuine, peaceful and free self. 3 Reply Antoinette7 years agoAntoinetteRight now I'm frustrated with what seems like being stuck in a situation that has no positive outcome. That in itself is a limited belief. Thinking and seeing only uncertainty is a limited thought. Maybe my limited belief that chage and lack of control are bad is something to let go of today? A good place to start today is for me to really take a huge step back from all of these "problems" and let go. Divorce and the what feels like a landslide because of it doesn't have to be. I'm jus... Right now I’m frustrated with what seems like being stuck in a situation that has no positive outcome. That in itself is a limited belief. Thinking and seeing only uncertainty is a limited thought. Maybe my limited belief that chage and lack of control are bad is something to let go of today? A good place to start today is for me to really take a huge step back from all of these “problems” and let go. Divorce and the what feels like a landslide because of it doesn’t have to be. I’m just not sure how to do it. How to stop wanting to want everything and everyone to be ok. It’s like hanging on the end of a rope holding on for dear life. Read More2 Reply Palm7 years agoPalmDear Antoinette, wanting everything and everyone to be ok is a good wish and I woudn’t want to change that.. the thing is, one can only keep one’s side clean, and we have no control over the other side, which can only be left to God 0 Reply Deb7 years agoDebMy current limiting belief is that I will never get this Handel jigg under my fingers proficiently! I have been working on it 6 months and still stumbling around!! 3 Reply Anonymous7 years agoAnonymousI am at awe of today’s reflection or daily question as I have been struggling with a pattern of thoughts or emotions that I need to out grow from. It is ” after a hurt full childhood I by grace have a wonderful marriage and now my daughter is in love with someone and the fear of her being not happy is eating me inside. ” I really want to accept and love her decision but my childhood fear is limiting me from accepting or even praying for peace inside me and peace and happiness for her. I r... I am at awe of today’s reflection or daily question as I have been struggling with a pattern of thoughts or emotions that I need to out grow from. It is ” after a hurt full childhood I by grace have a wonderful marriage and now my daughter is in love with someone and the fear of her being not happy is eating me inside. ” I really want to accept and love her decision but my childhood fear is limiting me from accepting or even praying for peace inside me and peace and happiness for her. I really want to have faith which is unshakeable yet I feel the need to control by praying……oh god help me to see that our path is only for growth and development of unconditional love not to have my way. What happens to my love for you oh god, who knows nothing but love, to be fearful? What might help me is to give my trouble to god and not try working it out and ask for wisdom how to deal with it. Read More4 Reply Kathleen7 years agoKathleenI am limiting myself to waiting to be chosen by others. I need to choose myself and not be hurt or defensive that others cannot see my value yet. 4 Reply Ben7 years agoBenI find myself struggling these days with the decisions I’ve made in my life so far (41 years in) – wondering especially if I could have healed from Lyme years ago, if I could have devoted myself more to writing and music and be creating deeply meaningful works today, and if I missed chances for long-term, loving relationships years ago by not recognizing the good that was there. I’m not exactly sure what the limiting belief is behind all this. It may be that I don’t deserve love, or a ... I find myself struggling these days with the decisions I’ve made in my life so far (41 years in) – wondering especially if I could have healed from Lyme years ago, if I could have devoted myself more to writing and music and be creating deeply meaningful works today, and if I missed chances for long-term, loving relationships years ago by not recognizing the good that was there. I’m not exactly sure what the limiting belief is behind all this. It may be that I don’t deserve love, or a sense of being somehow broken and ashamed that others will see this if I really show myself. Or maybe my choices haven’t been that bad – I have many loving friends, I do write and play music, I have a job that’s fulfilling in many ways and live in a beautiful place, etc. It seems to me both are true – there’s some very old belief in something inherently being wrong or broken about me that it’s time to let go of (and that I clearly need more support to really get beyond), and my life has so much to celebrate and be grateful for. Thank you for reading! ???? Read More5 Reply John7 years agoJohnI really don’t believe that I can change. Here I am at the age of 78; trapped by the habits that plague me. I have made – so many times – made promises, written manifestos, made vows over the course my life that have come to naught. I do want to go beyond – I really do. I don’t have the freedom to do so because of obligations to wife and family. But that sounds like an excuse. O God help me find a way. 6 Reply kathleen7 years agokathleenI think I have a limiting belief that I can manifest the desires of my soul, or what I really really want for my life. Some of those desires are buried behind my thinking that for me it’s ok to accept less. For me to move beyond this is to challenge these beliefs. However they are never overt, just always lurking and playing in the background. So continued awareness is the way forward. 3 Reply Francine Marie Tolf7 years agoFrancine Marie TolfThat I don’t deserve happiness, a peaceful home, success in writing. Be gone, limiting beliefs! Ugh, they cling and cling to me. 3 Reply Ben7 years agoBenI hear you on those beliefs and relate, Francine! I hope it’s helpful to hear that I’ve always found your poetry so moving when you’ve shared. I hope to be an encouraging presence helping you move into the happiness, peace and success you deserve! 2 Reply Susan7 years agoSusanWhat I am dealing with is the limitations of others. I was trying to push someone to have a greater understanding of a situation that I am dealing with, but have been told by others that this not going to happen. I need to realize that by understanding the limitations of others, I can find ways to 'move beyond' for a situation, even with the limitations of others involved in this situation. What might help me 'move beyond' - Letting go and Letting God.. Everyone has limitations and in... What I am dealing with is the limitations of others. I was trying to push someone to have a greater understanding of a situation that I am dealing with, but have been told by others that this not going to happen. I need to realize that by understanding the limitations of others, I can find ways to ‘move beyond’ for a situation, even with the limitations of others involved in this situation. What might help me ‘move beyond’ – Letting go and Letting God.. Everyone has limitations and instead of trying to push others and myself beyond our limitations – to release the situation (and our limitations) to the universe and to the Divine and to let go. Read More2 Reply Kelly7 years agoKellyMy most limiting belief is that I don't have/earn enough money. Sadly, this belief was just as strong when I was earning at the height of my career as it has been at the lowest point; when my health impeded my ability to work in the same capacity. Since childhood, I understood that I was not "good at saving" - my sister's and I would get our weekly allowance; they would always manage to keep some of theirs in their piggy bank....mine was immediately spent on candy and comics! This belief is s... My most limiting belief is that I don’t have/earn enough money. Sadly, this belief was just as strong when I was earning at the height of my career as it has been at the lowest point; when my health impeded my ability to work in the same capacity. Since childhood, I understood that I was not “good at saving” – my sister’s and I would get our weekly allowance; they would always manage to keep some of theirs in their piggy bank….mine was immediately spent on candy and comics! This belief is so deeply ingrained in my thinking that I’ve been aware of it and trying to correct it for YEARS. At times I manage to set this baggage down and things go better, financially speaking. But I always pick it back up. And that leads to another limiting-no- CRIPPLING belief: that I am weak. Intellectually I understand that these are false narratives…And it’s why I’m here, in this space, hoping to heal this twisted relationship I have with money. Last night I read an enlightening article I found on this site about the power we have assigned to money…it was yet another beautiful gift;that article….I intend to read and reflect on it some more. I also know that it takes a commitment to practice…. to strengthen my attitude of gratitude. So this is what I can do; right now…this morning: I am so grateful for this space, and for the beautiful person who suggested I visit…And for the peace, comfort, and courage I’ve felt here. Thanks be to God:) Read More8 Reply Susan7 years agoSusanI too have struggled with money and how to earn and save money. I have read books such as 'Think and Grow Rich' and watched the movie, 'Secret' which is based on a book (written at the beginning of the last century) titled 'The Science of Getting Rich'. What these books teach us is not to get 'filthy rich or greedy' but that we are entitled to live in comfort with all our needs and even, our wants (considerate wants) provided for. And also, to be 'rich' enough to generously give back. I am s... I too have struggled with money and how to earn and save money. I have read books such as ‘Think and Grow Rich’ and watched the movie, ‘Secret’ which is based on a book (written at the beginning of the last century) titled ‘The Science of Getting Rich’. What these books teach us is not to get ‘filthy rich or greedy’ but that we are entitled to live in comfort with all our needs and even, our wants (considerate wants) provided for. And also, to be ‘rich’ enough to generously give back. I am still struggling to get to this level of being ‘rich’ because I do want to give back. Instead of just buying a few groceries for my local food bank, I would love to have the money to build a homeless shelter. This is the kind of ‘rich’ that these books teach others. Read More0 Reply Deb7 years agoDebKelly, I am glad you are here! I understand what you are struggling with. Have you looked into Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University? You might find it helpful as it enables you to control money rather than thoughts of it controlling you. I lived for a period of time below the poverty level and know how it feels to have very little money. That is when the practice of gratefulness was helpful. When I counted out what I did have, I remembered I had enough. Mary Poppins says " Enough is as ... Kelly, I am glad you are here! I understand what you are struggling with. Have you looked into Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University? You might find it helpful as it enables you to control money rather than thoughts of it controlling you. I lived for a period of time below the poverty level and know how it feels to have very little money. That is when the practice of gratefulness was helpful. When I counted out what I did have, I remembered I had enough. Mary Poppins says ” Enough is as good as a feast!” Best of perseverance and success be yours! Read More2 Reply Gina7 years agoGinaI believe that every thought, intention and action makes all the difference in my view of every moment and guides the future and that is what matters………….. 3 Reply Carol7 years agoCarolWhat “LIFE limiting beliefs” do I wish to move beyond? What might help me do this? My first thought regarding today’s question was of a quote from Alan Watts that I share often. “Belief clings. Faith lets go.” It is a key to remembering that we are part of evolution and the most profound definition for evolution is “awareness.” To grow in awareness is not necessarily to understand everything. Instead it is to set an intention to be willing. My job is willingness. God’s job ... What “LIFE limiting beliefs” do I wish to move beyond? What might help me do this? My first thought regarding today’s question was of a quote from Alan Watts that I share often. “Belief clings. Faith lets go.” It is a key to remembering that we are part of evolution and the most profound definition for evolution is “awareness.” To grow in awareness is not necessarily to understand everything. Instead it is to set an intention to be willing. My job is willingness. God’s job is transformation. When I root myself in willingness (or as Thomas Keating says, “Open heart, Open mind”), I find the faith necessary to forsake clinging to life limiting beliefs. Sometimes letting go feels like death. It is not always pleasant but after almost 75 years of trial and error, I choose the vulnerability that faces fear and chooses to love it to death. I see it as the alignment of mind, body and spirit and a reflection of the teachings surrounding Trinity. The words of the Beatles song, Let it BE come to mind: “In times of trouble, Mother Mary comforts me, speaking words of wisdom, Let it Be.” Just writing this, I feel the Trinitarian flow of birthing, dying and rising again and again. Blessings, Carol Read More7 Reply Anonymous7 years agoAnonymousThank you carol, after reading your post momentarily I felt relief. Thank you! 0 Reply Antoinette7 years agoAntoinetteCarol, Thank you so much for these thoughtful and inspiring insights! Alan Watts his lectures are very inspiring! Let it be! 0 Reply Pilgrim7 years agoPilgrim“I can’t.” “It’s too late.” “I’m too old.” “I’m not brave enough.” 4 Reply Antoinette7 years agoAntoinettePilgrim, I’m sure deeply you know that it’s never too late and fear is stealing your true presents. As far as age, getting older really is a unique time where wisdom and knowledge seem to come together and it truly something to be grateful for. You can. 1 Reply Anna7 years agoAnnaOh Pilgrim, but you HAVE helped so many people, and me among them! You can , it is not too late, you are not too old and you are brave, and I say this as I could have you in front of me. First of all because, if you are not young, you are still on the path, and this is not usual when someone is old, or a bit old. Pilgrim, I would like to encourage you because now you should answer to second part of this question. Not here, if you don' t want, by inside you, you to yourself. And please, acce... Oh Pilgrim, but you HAVE helped so many people, and me among them! You can , it is not too late, you are not too old and you are brave, and I say this as I could have you in front of me. First of all because, if you are not young, you are still on the path, and this is not usual when someone is old, or a bit old. Pilgrim, I would like to encourage you because now you should answer to second part of this question. Not here, if you don’ t want, by inside you, you to yourself. And please, accept my sincere hug. Read More3 Reply Pilgrim7 years agoPilgrimDear Anna and Ose, thank you very much. I did neglect to answer the 2nd part of the question, though at this moment I don’t have much of an answer. Maybe primarily, to notice when I am living in various ways within these beliefs, and look for ways beyond, around or through them. Seek opportunities that will teach or remind me otherwise. And keep visiting this site with such wise and holy friends. 3 Reply Ose7 years agoOseDear Pilgrim, I wonder if you missed to read the second part of today`s question? At least since I got to know you here, you are such an inspiration and support in your presence and feed back. To me this was especially true after the pilgrimage we both shared, when you were the one to support with courage and hope. I feel like borrowing one of Ed´s favorites: “be well be present” ???? 2 Reply Ed Schulte7 years agoEd SchulteWhat “limiting beliefs” do I wish to move beyond? What might help me do this? This is the same question as yesterdays, just using a slightly different 'word-ology' to addressing the question of Doubt as it applies to being a Human being experiencing itself as Life itself. So I will respond by cut-quoting the response I made yesterday Is Life experience a “task or a mission”? The differentiation between "task and mission" is one of attitude. And “Gratitude” is the 99% of a... What “limiting beliefs” do I wish to move beyond? What might help me do this? This is the same question as yesterdays, just using a slightly different ‘word-ology’ to addressing the question of Doubt as it applies to being a Human being experiencing itself as Life itself. So I will respond by cut-quoting the response I made yesterday Is Life experience a “task or a mission”? The differentiation between “task and mission” is one of attitude. And “Gratitude” is the 99% of attitude which makes every life decision a “mission” rather then a “task” . And as for the trailer question, “What might help me do this?” ( I would have preferred the question to read “Why might help me to cleans my egoism of Doubt”) There is only one option as far as “what might help” and that is … ….. with confidence and gratitude, ( iow True Faith and not blind faith) continue to experience the Truth of what Life IS, without criticizing the current ( perceived) conditions. This is implied in James 1:4, “Allow perseverance to finish its work, so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything”. The “you” in James 1:4 is referring to the Temporary Present day personality and NOT the Soul-Self which has always been and always will be, “mature and complete”. The Temporary personality’s egoism must “allow perseverance” which of course is just another way of saying “allow Divine Grace to flow through your Being-ness and the cleaning away of Doubt will get done. After all is said and done, this cleansing process is unquestionably part of the Divine Plan. Read More5 Reply Anonymous7 years agoAnonymousThank you Ed 0 Reply Antoinette7 years agoAntoinetteThank you Ed! 0 Reply Christina7 years agoChristinaOne that a friend recently helped me discover is that I believe that I can attain a state of being where all my emotions are integrated and “manageable.” In my experience, this is not the way it goes. I am affected by life, my interactions with others, my steps toward personal growth. Often this brings emotional pain. It’s just part of life. There will be no nirvana where everything is humming smoothly daily. I have long held the false belief that would be the case someday. 4 Reply Ose7 years agoOseLimiting beliefs are all the self- restrictions we internally and painfully run against, which might be fear of being excluded, of being not allowed to… or of fear of failure for example, of of doubts. Usually, going for the opposite is helpful, like including all instead of feeling excluded, or giving ourselves permission to do …. instead of feeling being not allowed. Recently, I understood some of these mechanisms and may be it is of help here. So, a way could be to first let go of limiti... Limiting beliefs are all the self- restrictions we internally and painfully run against, which might be fear of being excluded, of being not allowed to… or of fear of failure for example, of of doubts. Usually, going for the opposite is helpful, like including all instead of feeling excluded, or giving ourselves permission to do …. instead of feeling being not allowed. Recently, I understood some of these mechanisms and may be it is of help here. So, a way could be to first let go of limiting beliefs that are hinderances in our minds only and instead install the positive desired inner position. We always do have the choice to take this or that inner position, to “weigh the alternatives in our hearts” (analogue to J. Kornfield`s recent word for the day) and then we can decide to go for the better choice. It requires to be alert and aware when we fall back, so I am currently observing myself and call myself back to the track when falling back into old habits of mind. Read More3 Reply Ed Schulte7 years agoEd SchulteRe: “It requires to be alert and aware when we fall back, so I am currently observing myself and call myself back to the track when falling back into old habits of mind.” Yes! ….James 1:4, “Allow perseverance to finish its work, ….and that takes the skill of Observation and patients while watching what doubts and tricks egoism will come up with in order to preserve it temporary life. 2 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinGiven that I am nine days beyond major back surgery, my focus area at this time is personal and physical in nature. As healing continues, I am focusing on a full recovery over time and if that happens I hope to shed some of the "limiting beliefs" that I needed to adjust to over the last ten years in order to function as best as I could physically. Even in this early stage of recovery I am aware of several bodily movements, from simply sitting in an upright chair to lying in bed without leg ... Given that I am nine days beyond major back surgery, my focus area at this time is personal and physical in nature. As healing continues, I am focusing on a full recovery over time and if that happens I hope to shed some of the “limiting beliefs” that I needed to adjust to over the last ten years in order to function as best as I could physically. Even in this early stage of recovery I am aware of several bodily movements, from simply sitting in an upright chair to lying in bed without leg wedges, which caused me great pain to do before surgery, are literally pain free to do now. Though I need to proceed slowly, it also occurs to me with today’s question that I will also want to re-think and revisit some things that I though I would never be able to do again. It makes me feel hopeful, excited and especially grateful for the good care I have and continue to receive. – Kevin Read More8 Reply Anonymous7 years agoAnonymousKevin I read your post and always feel recharged. Glad you are slowly healing and going for a walk. My prayers and blessings your way. 0 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinThank you, Gargi! Travel Hopefully. 0 Reply Anonymous7 years agoAnonymousthank u once more 0 Reply Anna7 years agoAnnaI always appreciate you Kevin, for your positive view of life. Before your surgery operation you have always been inspiring for me, because you have never stressed your pain, instead you have always found reason to smile and to turn your thought elsewhere. Always glad to know that all is well with you. 0 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinHi Anna, thanks for your kind words here. I consider myself very lucky to have such a loving and attentive wife as I recover. If by the end of the first six weeks of recovery she doesn’t drop me off at the local shelter, I’ll consider myself luckier even more! I cannot imagine what it must be like to get to my age (67) and being living alone after a major surgery. Hope things are well with you, too. 1 Reply Ben7 years agoBenSo happy to hear of your progress in recovery, Kevin, and wishing you a return to all the activities you love! 0 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinHey Ben…it’s wonderful to see your name and pic here too! One of my goals is to drag my bones down to the beach on the first really warm day that comes….which I hope is soon! Cheers my friend! 0 Reply Susan7 years agoSusanKevin, may you continue to heal and to recover. 🙂 0 Reply Ose7 years agoOseDear Kevin, so good to hear you already feel some amelioration beyond the state of before! I press my thumbs to broad extension of re-gaining capacities and possibilities as much as possible. Thanks for sharing how you are doing. Have another good day of recovery. 0 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinThanks Ose, and though it’s raining lightly here, I’m headed out for my first 15 minute walk! In never though I’d feel so good about walking so slow! 2 Reply Susan7 years agoSusanWalking is wonderful – it is a great time for meditation and time for harmony between mind, soul and body. It doesn’t matter how slow or fast you walk. Walking can do wonders for your body but also for your whole being. May you enjoy your walk and find peace and be healed. 0 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinThanks Jill. Truth is, I used to enjoy walking, and hiking now and then, a lot, before my back troubles began 10 years ago. Just walking 20 minutes, three times a day in different directions is reminding me anew how much I really have missed walking all for the reasons you mentioned. Thank you. 0 Reply My Private Gratitude Journal Write an entry in your private gratefulness journal Get Started This site is brought to you by A Network for Grateful Living, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit. All donations are fully tax deductible in the U.S.A. CONTRIBUTE https://demo.gratefulness.org/content/uploads/2015/03/GX-Gold-Participant-L.png Community Engagement Guidelines Privacy Policy [email protected] Connect with us on Social Media: © 2000 - 2024, A Network for Grateful Living Website by Briteweb
