Daily Question, August 16 How do I show my respect for others? How is it a mutually fulfilling gift? 33 Reflections Share Click here to cancel reply.Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment. Notify me when someone replies to my comment via e-mail. JoeytheHoff7 years agoJoeytheHoffIt is interesting to explore respect by mirroring another’s beliefs temporarily. When adopting their vision as your own, in order to help them achieve a goal, you exercise tolerance and empathy. You exercise selflessness and experience another persons way. Even when you return to your own initiatives, you now have greater human experience for having stepped outside of yourself. You have honored another’s effort, experience comradory and gained insight. 6 Reply Deb7 years agoDebVery well stated!! Sometimes a challenging stance, but worthy of practicing. I appreciate it. 0 Reply Loving_Kindness7 years agoLoving_KindnessI show respect for others by being present when I interact and showing interest in them. Give love, get love. 2 Reply Nicki7 years agoNickiI treat others how I like to be treated and be aware that they may not deal with things the way I do and that’s ok 3 Reply Trevor7 years agoTrevorTHAT’S what I’m talking about Nicki! 0 Reply Hot Sauce7 years agoHot SauceI try to follow the Golden Rule. I try not to treat others in a way I wouldn’t like. Furthermore, if I want something or desire something, before I think, “How can I get that for myself?” I try to think, “Okay, I’ll give what I have of that to someone else.” This is a gift for them for obvious reasons. For me, it feels good on a spiritual level, and it also makes me see the good I already have that I didn’t realize was right in front of my eyes. 4 Reply Trevor7 years agoTrevorYa Bleach way to go! 1 Reply Francine Marie Tolf7 years agoFrancine Marie TolfPoetry is my passion, but reception is how I pay the bills and I don’t mind that combo one bit! I am continually touched l that my smile, my friendly manner, my offer to provide a cup of coffee or a glass of water is for the most part repaid with gratitude as if I had done much, much more. 5 Reply Trevor7 years agoTrevorHow nice! 0 Reply KC7 years agoKCI agree with much of what others have said. In being present as best I can, I try to be thoughtful about what is going on for the other person, as well as what is going on for me. 4 Reply Deb7 years agoDebI usually read the responses others have posted before I answer. I suppose that is a way to show respect, to listen before responding. Oftentimes, I find myself agreeing with the thought expressed or thinking deeply on something I have not contemplated before. 6 Reply Trevor7 years agoTrevorLOL me too Deb. I’m not answering this question but I’m reading as you can see…this question tickled me awkwardly and made me self conscious thinking of answering it. Call me picky. 2 Reply Ed Schulte7 years agoEd SchulteHow do I show my respect for others? How is it a mutually fulfilling gift? I will use a Sufi parable to reflect what "mutually fulfilling" can potentially be within this experiment called "Humanity". The Prophet said, “There are some who see me by the same light in which I am seeing them. Our natures are one. Without reference to any strands of lineage, without reference to texts or traditions, we drink the life-water together.” A graceful Sufi Parable about this hidden mystery:... How do I show my respect for others? How is it a mutually fulfilling gift? I will use a Sufi parable to reflect what “mutually fulfilling” can potentially be within this experiment called “Humanity”. The Prophet said, “There are some who see me by the same light in which I am seeing them. Our natures are one. Without reference to any strands of lineage, without reference to texts or traditions, we drink the life-water together.” A graceful Sufi Parable about this hidden mystery: In the courtyard of the King two groups artists were pondering which group were the better artists. The king said, “We’ll settle this matter with a debate, ” One group began talking, but the other group wouldn’t say anything. They just got up and left. The talking group suggested to the King that they each be given a space in the courtroom to work on with their artistry, the two groups would face each other but be divided by a curtain until one of the groups declared they had completed their artistic display. The King agreed to this proposal and gave names to each group. He called them “Talking artists” and “Not Talking artists”. The “Talking artists” asked the king for a hundred colors of paint and silk. Each day they came to where these were stored and took them all and used then on their art wall. The “Not Talking artists” did no want any materials of any kind, they simple went to their side of the courtroom and began cleaning and polishing their wall. All day, every day, they simply made those walls as pure and clear as an open sky. ( a poetic pause: The “Not Talking artists” knew there is a “way” that leads from all-colors to colorlessness. They knew that the magnificent variety of the clouds and the weather comes from the total simplicity of the sun and the moon.) The “Talking artists” finished, and they were so happy! They beat the drums in the joy of the completion of the art work. The King entered their side and he was astonished by the gorgeous color and detail! Then the “Not-Talking artists” pulled the curtain dividing the two side of the courtyard. There the “Talking artists” figures were shimmeringly reflected on the clear “Not-Talking artists” wall. They truly LIVED there, even more beautifully, and always changing in the light. The “Not-Talking artists” art is the Sufi way. Read More7 Reply Ed Schulte7 years agoEd SchulteI will now add the remainder of this Parable.. ..the original Author is nameless but the one quoted is Rumi's version as is this following conclusion. However I have noted that there are as many conclusions as there are readers of it but for one very common reaction ...."It leaves me feeling as though I was walking on air for the rest of the day!" Rumi's conclusion. The "No talking artists" art is the sufi way. They don't study books of philosophical thought. They make their lovi... I will now add the remainder of this Parable.. ..the original Author is nameless but the one quoted is Rumi’s version as is this following conclusion. However I have noted that there are as many conclusions as there are readers of it but for one very common reaction ….”It leaves me feeling as though I was walking on air for the rest of the day!” Rumi’s conclusion. The “No talking artists” art is the sufi way. They don’t study books of philosophical thought. They make their loving clearer and clearer. No wantings, no anger. In that purity they receive and reflect the images of every moment, from here, from the stars, from the void. They take them in as though they were seeing with the lighted clarity that sees them. Read More2 Reply Palm7 years agoPalmThank you for this wonderful parable, made me think of the extroverts and introverts and how we need each other ???? 1 Reply Ed Schulte7 years agoEd SchulteAnd “Thank Us!” Too Palm! Be Well Be Present EdS 1 Reply grateful sea7 years agograteful seaThank you, Ed, for this graceful parable which is settling deep within me. 3 Reply Ed Schulte7 years agoEd SchulteAnd “Thank Us!” grateful sea! Sufis use the expression, “Thank Us” rather then “Thank You” because, as they rightly observe, when one eliminates all the mind generated mental stuff from within the perception of Who and What we are as Human Beings there is only one realization left. And it is “all we truly have is each other”. Be Well Be Present EdS 2 Reply Always Learning7 years agoAlways LearningFor me, it is the Golden Rule. I treat people the way I wish to be treated. It becomes mutually fulfilling because even if they do not treat me like that back, I know I am in integrity… and am at peace with that. 🙂 6 Reply Trevor7 years agoTrevorAL that is perfect! I cannot add anything to this! So don’t mind if I piggyback on this and say you took the words right out of my mouth! 0 Reply Dennis7 years agoDennisBeing present, giving the other my full attention, as for the moment there´s no more important being in the whole universe. 6 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinBy listening, making eye contact and being fully present when engaged with people. This, I have found, usually goes full-circle. 5 Reply Pilgrim7 years agoPilgrimKevin, I have wanted to ask this for a while, though the Q may not belong here. Is it possible to take on Quaker practices without a community? And is there any reading you could recommend? It is a long way from where I live to the nearest community. Thank you. 2 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinHi Pilgrim, gosh, I just sent a full reply to you with some links to sites that I think would be helpful to you. But when I clicked “add your voice,” everything I replied disappeared! I will check back in a bit, hoping that it was held for review and that they might allow it to be posted. If not, I’ll give you my email address and you can reach me there. Sorry! 1 Reply Pilgrim7 years agoPilgrimThank you, Kevin! 1 Reply Deb7 years agoDebGood question, Pilgrim! I have wondered that myself. I look forward to Kevin’s answer. 1 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinHi Deb, Turns out that Pilgrim contacted me directly via email so I was able to send her info regarding her question and links to Quaker sites that might be useful. Happy to share with you what I shared with Pilgrim, if you’re okay emailing me also. I’m at [email protected] . Take care my friend. 1 Reply Antoinette7 years agoAntoinetteI show respect to others by doing my practice of meditation. Meditation helps me to practice loving kindness and compassion in the “real world”. Patience is also a venture which I’m slowly learning. Slowing down to be mindful of whatever is happening shows respect to others and myself. Taking time for meditation is a gift for all of us. When we practice, we practice for all of us. We heal from the inside out and we heal with those around us. 6 Reply Deb7 years agoDebAntoinette, I agree wholeheartedly with what you wrote! I am reminded of a cartoon I saw decades ago but which still brings a smile to me. I share it with you now hoping it does the same. It was a person looking pensive and the caption read, “I need to learn patience. Where can I take a crash course?” Blessings upon you! -Deb- 1 Reply Gina7 years agoGinayes, so true, thanks for the reminder, also best way for me to grow my patience and acceptance 1 Reply Christina7 years agoChristinaI think I show my respect for others through my compassion. I’ve had a lot of rough times (perhaps we all have,) and it has made me particularly sensitive to the struggles of others. I try to be a “willing ear,” and am just learning, as well, to maintain my own boundaries (not an easy formula to realize!) I think if I show respect I receive it in kind. 6 Reply Trevor7 years agoTrevorGive it to get it sister, indeed. 0 Reply Antoinette7 years agoAntoinetteSo true! Thank you! 2 Reply My Private Gratitude Journal Write an entry in your private gratefulness journal Get Started This site is brought to you by A Network for Grateful Living, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit. All donations are fully tax deductible in the U.S.A. CONTRIBUTE https://demo.gratefulness.org/content/uploads/2015/03/GX-Gold-Participant-L.png Community Engagement Guidelines Privacy Policy [email protected] Connect with us on Social Media: © 2000 - 2024, A Network for Grateful Living Website by Briteweb
