In his book “The healing Habit” Daniel O Leary has two excellent quotes on atttude
1 You can change your destiny, by changing your attitude.
2.You can change your difficult day, by changing your attitude.
so when the day is difficult, I struggle but eventuly, I will change my attitude, and then I really try, and I know that to be true to myself, being true to my current attitude is essential.
Most days it works, and when it dosent.. I just say ” i was born to be awesome, not perfect...
In his book “The healing Habit” Daniel O Leary has two excellent quotes on atttude
1 You can change your destiny, by changing your attitude.
2.You can change your difficult day, by changing your attitude.
so when the day is difficult, I struggle but eventuly, I will change my attitude, and then I really try, and I know that to be true to myself, being true to my current attitude is essential.
Most days it works, and when it dosent.. I just say ” i was born to be awesome, not perfect, and rock on.
Re: Am I being faithful to my values by my current attitude?
Can one ever ever dare to trust the temporary personal self’s reply to such a question about itself? . I would not. Instead I bow to Rumi’s honesty and accept his “keep working” advice.
A night full of talking that hurts,
my worst held-back secrets.
Everything has to do with loving and not loving.
This night will pass.
Then we have work to do.
As Kevin mentioned so wisely; I less often struggle with the attitude towards meaningful values. But it is the daily practice of ensuring our calendar & chequebook align with that which we value wholeheartedly.
I’m more faithful to my values than ever before.
Like Ben says there’s always room for improvement, however being content with ourselves is also important.
We can’t always want something other than what we have or we miss out on gratefulness.
By recognizing the goodness in ourselves we are preforming a beautiful truth and letting our love light shine.
I hope so! I believe I am, but there’s room for plenty of growth. With gratitude in particular, I’d really love to live every moment in awareness and appreciation of how precious life is. Around some aspects of my life there can at times be a sense of an unjust loss that I can’t ever make up. I struggle at these times to be accepting and focus on how much I’ve been given, which is beyond measure.
I believe I am being faithful to my values by my current attitude; however we all have a blind spot. I cannot see the part of me that is doing the examining of my faithfulness. I continue to examine, however.
I am so far, but the day is young! I have no doubt I will screw up sooner or later. BUT – I have said it before and I will say it again since this issue is so important to me – I continue to be faithful to my values in eating a plant based diet that does not involve violence or suffering. It took me decades to realize, but now I see that what I eat is intricately and materially connected to my spiritual values and how I want to live.
I am drawn to the word of the day - Peace, like most beautiful things, begins small. In truth, I find this question a bit daunting.
Learning practices to accept and embrace my full humanness and that of others, showing up and doing/ being my best, I suppose the answer is yes.
I will sign off and create a few tasteful, hand-made "under construction" and "becoming human" signs for my desk. The computer and all devices will be tucked happily away for a blissful while. There will be no...
I am drawn to the word of the day – Peace, like most beautiful things, begins small. In truth, I find this question a bit daunting.
Learning practices to accept and embrace my full humanness and that of others, showing up and doing/ being my best, I suppose the answer is yes.
I will sign off and create a few tasteful, hand-made “under construction” and “becoming human” signs for my desk. The computer and all devices will be tucked happily away for a blissful while. There will be no red ink or aggressive marks, and I may throw in a flaw or two to make it real!
Thank you for your honesty, Yella, we have all been there. You don’t have to wait until tomorrow. You can start over right now! Every moment is new and God has already forgiven you for your less than perfect behavior!
Nah, Yella! Living in time we have the opportunity to start over in the next moment, minute or hour. No need to put off until tomorrow what you can do now. Cheers! Deb
I invest some time observing my attitude and if I could do that more and do it more objectively. Other times I operate out of habit and conditioning. When I can more of the first and less of the second I am faithful to my values.
I bring energy n passion each day. I am grateful for the health n frame of mind to do so. my core values of moving myself towards happiness/assisting others as they move towards happiness w love and working to mess up “the system” wake me up each day fired up. fired up to serve, to learn, to listen, to live.
thought, speech and actions contribute to how faithful I am to my values
so it is a continual cycle and being faithful to this is constantly challenging my day to day, moment to moment way of being.., for sure.
best if I lead with my heart most times…………….
I believe that I am being faithful to my values by my current attitude. But ‘attitude’ in all honesty is not the neighborhood where my values are challenged most often. If I were asked, “Am I being faithful to my values by my thought and speech process,” I’d have to say that that neighborhood is always under construction!
– Kevin
The Apostle Paul put it better than I can when he said (my memory may paraphrase slightly), “Oh wretched human that I am! The good that I want to do, that’s what I don’t do. And the bad that I don’t want to do is exactly what I wind up doing!”
I figure that if the Apostle Paul still struggled with it, God is probably okay with the fact that I haven’t mastered this yet either!
Aine, your reference to Saint Paul reminded me of a personal prayer that a friend of mine once wrote, who is also one of the kindest and spiritually grounded persons I know. His little prayer runs along the same lines as today’s question:
"Dear God,
so far today, I’ve done all right. I haven’t gossiped, I haven’t lost my temper, I haven’t been greedy, grumpy, nasty, or self-centered.
I’m really happy about that so far, Lord,
But, in a few minutes…I’m going to be getting out of b...
Aine, your reference to Saint Paul reminded me of a personal prayer that a friend of mine once wrote, who is also one of the kindest and spiritually grounded persons I know. His little prayer runs along the same lines as today’s question:
“Dear God,
so far today, I’ve done all right. I haven’t gossiped, I haven’t lost my temper, I haven’t been greedy, grumpy, nasty, or self-centered.
I’m really happy about that so far, Lord,
But, in a few minutes…I’m going to be getting out of bed….and then I’m going to need a lot of help.
Thank you, Lord.”
(By Ray Smith)
Hi Francine, thanks for checking first. However, while I have permission to use his little prayer, I don’t believe I have his permission for it to be posted on Facebook. I doubt he would mind at all, but I would need to ask first. He’s 82 years old now and just out of surgery himself, so it would take a bit of time to ask him. Sorry.
Thank you for that, Kevin! That is a good prayer for me, too!
Hope you are doing ok with your back, btw. You wrote about your decision for surgery, I am confident that your decision will be supported by Him/Her (Words likely aren’t able to describe this reality) you have devoted your life to. ~
Many blessings, Ursula
Good morning, community! Yes, I am being faithful to my values: my reading of Brother David began in the mid-80s (“Gratefulness: the Heart of Prayer.) Since then, what he talks about have become my values. That combined with my 12-step values have become my life – and it’s a wonderful one!
Today, I wasn’t…. From this moment on, I’ll try to keep it in mind. This will help me.
In his book “The healing Habit” Daniel O Leary has two excellent quotes on atttude
1 You can change your destiny, by changing your attitude.
2.You can change your difficult day, by changing your attitude.
so when the day is difficult, I struggle but eventuly, I will change my attitude, and then I really try, and I know that to be true to myself, being true to my current attitude is essential.
Most days it works, and when it dosent.. I just say ” i was born to be awesome, not perfect...
In his book “The healing Habit” Daniel O Leary has two excellent quotes on atttude
1 You can change your destiny, by changing your attitude.
2.You can change your difficult day, by changing your attitude.
so when the day is difficult, I struggle but eventuly, I will change my attitude, and then I really try, and I know that to be true to myself, being true to my current attitude is essential.
Most days it works, and when it dosent.. I just say ” i was born to be awesome, not perfect, and rock on.
Thanks Shaun for the quotes. They can help me a lot!
Re: Am I being faithful to my values by my current attitude?
Can one ever ever dare to trust the temporary personal self’s reply to such a question about itself? . I would not. Instead I bow to Rumi’s honesty and accept his “keep working” advice.
A night full of talking that hurts,
my worst held-back secrets.
Everything has to do with loving and not loving.
This night will pass.
Then we have work to do.
As Kevin mentioned so wisely; I less often struggle with the attitude towards meaningful values. But it is the daily practice of ensuring our calendar & chequebook align with that which we value wholeheartedly.
I’m more faithful to my values than ever before.
Like Ben says there’s always room for improvement, however being content with ourselves is also important.
We can’t always want something other than what we have or we miss out on gratefulness.
By recognizing the goodness in ourselves we are preforming a beautiful truth and letting our love light shine.
Currently, yes. I err throughout the day and must continuously bring myself back to the present, to my beliefs, my values and what is right.
I hope so! I believe I am, but there’s room for plenty of growth. With gratitude in particular, I’d really love to live every moment in awareness and appreciation of how precious life is. Around some aspects of my life there can at times be a sense of an unjust loss that I can’t ever make up. I struggle at these times to be accepting and focus on how much I’ve been given, which is beyond measure.
Amen
I believe I am being faithful to my values by my current attitude; however we all have a blind spot. I cannot see the part of me that is doing the examining of my faithfulness. I continue to examine, however.
I am so far, but the day is young! I have no doubt I will screw up sooner or later. BUT – I have said it before and I will say it again since this issue is so important to me – I continue to be faithful to my values in eating a plant based diet that does not involve violence or suffering. It took me decades to realize, but now I see that what I eat is intricately and materially connected to my spiritual values and how I want to live.
I am drawn to the word of the day - Peace, like most beautiful things, begins small. In truth, I find this question a bit daunting.
Learning practices to accept and embrace my full humanness and that of others, showing up and doing/ being my best, I suppose the answer is yes.
I will sign off and create a few tasteful, hand-made "under construction" and "becoming human" signs for my desk. The computer and all devices will be tucked happily away for a blissful while. There will be no...
I am drawn to the word of the day – Peace, like most beautiful things, begins small. In truth, I find this question a bit daunting.
Learning practices to accept and embrace my full humanness and that of others, showing up and doing/ being my best, I suppose the answer is yes.
I will sign off and create a few tasteful, hand-made “under construction” and “becoming human” signs for my desk. The computer and all devices will be tucked happily away for a blissful while. There will be no red ink or aggressive marks, and I may throw in a flaw or two to make it real!
Peace ????????????
KC
Ah, but Sunflower, your face is still toward the sun! You won’t go thru the back door again. Go forth and continue to grow.
Today I have not been faithful to my values. I was grudging and selfish. I regret it. I want to start over tomorrow.
Thank you for your honesty, Yella, we have all been there. You don’t have to wait until tomorrow. You can start over right now! Every moment is new and God has already forgiven you for your less than perfect behavior!
Nah, Yella! Living in time we have the opportunity to start over in the next moment, minute or hour. No need to put off until tomorrow what you can do now. Cheers! Deb
I invest some time observing my attitude and if I could do that more and do it more objectively. Other times I operate out of habit and conditioning. When I can more of the first and less of the second I am faithful to my values.
I bring energy n passion each day. I am grateful for the health n frame of mind to do so. my core values of moving myself towards happiness/assisting others as they move towards happiness w love and working to mess up “the system” wake me up each day fired up. fired up to serve, to learn, to listen, to live.
thought, speech and actions contribute to how faithful I am to my values
so it is a continual cycle and being faithful to this is constantly challenging my day to day, moment to moment way of being.., for sure.
best if I lead with my heart most times…………….
I believe that I am being faithful to my values by my current attitude. But ‘attitude’ in all honesty is not the neighborhood where my values are challenged most often. If I were asked, “Am I being faithful to my values by my thought and speech process,” I’d have to say that that neighborhood is always under construction!
– Kevin
Perfect!
The Apostle Paul put it better than I can when he said (my memory may paraphrase slightly), “Oh wretched human that I am! The good that I want to do, that’s what I don’t do. And the bad that I don’t want to do is exactly what I wind up doing!”
I figure that if the Apostle Paul still struggled with it, God is probably okay with the fact that I haven’t mastered this yet either!
Aine, your reference to Saint Paul reminded me of a personal prayer that a friend of mine once wrote, who is also one of the kindest and spiritually grounded persons I know. His little prayer runs along the same lines as today’s question:
"Dear God,
so far today, I’ve done all right. I haven’t gossiped, I haven’t lost my temper, I haven’t been greedy, grumpy, nasty, or self-centered.
I’m really happy about that so far, Lord,
But, in a few minutes…I’m going to be getting out of b...
Aine, your reference to Saint Paul reminded me of a personal prayer that a friend of mine once wrote, who is also one of the kindest and spiritually grounded persons I know. His little prayer runs along the same lines as today’s question:
“Dear God,
so far today, I’ve done all right. I haven’t gossiped, I haven’t lost my temper, I haven’t been greedy, grumpy, nasty, or self-centered.
I’m really happy about that so far, Lord,
But, in a few minutes…I’m going to be getting out of bed….and then I’m going to need a lot of help.
Thank you, Lord.”
(By Ray Smith)
Oh, I love this, Kevin. I’d like to post it on Facebook if that is OK (giving credit, of course, to your friend).
Hi Francine, thanks for checking first. However, while I have permission to use his little prayer, I don’t believe I have his permission for it to be posted on Facebook. I doubt he would mind at all, but I would need to ask first. He’s 82 years old now and just out of surgery himself, so it would take a bit of time to ask him. Sorry.
Thank you for that, Kevin! That is a good prayer for me, too!
Hope you are doing ok with your back, btw. You wrote about your decision for surgery, I am confident that your decision will be supported by Him/Her (Words likely aren’t able to describe this reality) you have devoted your life to. ~
Many blessings, Ursula
Good morning, community! Yes, I am being faithful to my values: my reading of Brother David began in the mid-80s (“Gratefulness: the Heart of Prayer.) Since then, what he talks about have become my values. That combined with my 12-step values have become my life – and it’s a wonderful one!
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