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Daily Question, July 9

How can I tend the tenderness around me?

  • Kristy

    Joining this community is a positive step towards intentionally practicing gratefulness. I’m looking forward to learning and sharing together.

  • Susan

    In my neighborhood, there is one woman who just doesn’t get along with another neighbor and his wife. I try to find ‘common ground’ with others and to be kind, careful and ‘tender’ in this situation. I am not interested in taking sides but to appreciate all my neighbors. It is a difficult situation but it is a situation in which I can tend to the tenderness of all my neighbors. To be kind and compassionate to everyone.

  • Linda

    By first noticing what is alive around me and attending to it’s needs. Then by helping others See. Look! What an amazing…did you see?

  • Antoinette

    I can be grateful for all of the gifts of love I receive.
    I can pay tenderness forward as well by doing to others as they do to me.
    Treating my brother like myself would also be a way to tend to tenderness.

  • Mary

    I can start with being gentle with myself. A lot of emotional stuff has been going on. Second guessing myself is not helpful. I can very easily give extra tenderness to my cats. My cat Billy once again is doing poorly. Gentleness with my cats is easy. Today is my 29th wedding anniversary. There has been a lot of very emotional stuff going on with my family of origin over the last several days. A lot of my attention to them over the last several days has caused some discord between betwee...

    I can start with being gentle with myself. A lot of emotional stuff has been going on. Second guessing myself is not helpful. I can very easily give extra tenderness to my cats. My cat Billy once again is doing poorly. Gentleness with my cats is easy. Today is my 29th wedding anniversary. There has been a lot of very emotional stuff going on with my family of origin over the last several days. A lot of my attention to them over the last several days has caused some discord between between my husband and myself. I guess I could be extra gentle with both he and myself and accept that, well, he is upset, read hurt, with me. And I am feeling kind of disappointed with the timing of things and the state of both of us today. Tenderness around all of that is needed.
    Tenderness, softness, gentleness, tears, calmness, things are ok.
    More tears, comfort, gratitude, peace, simplicity, sadness.
    I can’t change my husband, and he can’t change me. We certainly both have tried.
    Today will be what it will be.
    I will live today with tenderness.
    All will be well.
    Mary

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  • Palm

    As in the first post today I also find this is a wonderful and heartwarming question, with wonderful answers too. It made me think of the chapter of a book I read about twelve years ago: “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” by Richard Carlson. It spoke about seeing the innocence in people. The thought stayed with me since, and I still practice it some times, looking into people’s eyes.

  • Hot Sauce

    I find it easier to be tender to others when I interact with them while aware of their spiritual, divine nature that is full of potential. I think about how the person is not really “human,” in the sense of limited, but divine.

  • Ose

    By asking someone whom I might have hurt to please forgive me, that I feel so very sorry for having caused pain, even if it was without intention. By expressing that it is my heartfelt wish to see the other well and happy, wishing full unfolding and blossoming of the lovely one to whom this concerns.

  • Always Learning

    I am thinking of that tiny plant. It has worked so hard to escape the confines of the seed, and it is ready to stretch out and create its life. As it peeks out of the soil, it is fragile and somehow trusting. With time, it begins to grow and create its destiny. I think of tenderness as that sprout: wanting to tend it, protect it, and honor its bravery. Different situations require different "flavors" of tenderness. It is important to have these in our emotional toolboxes.
    To answer the question...

    I am thinking of that tiny plant. It has worked so hard to escape the confines of the seed, and it is ready to stretch out and create its life. As it peeks out of the soil, it is fragile and somehow trusting. With time, it begins to grow and create its destiny. I think of tenderness as that sprout: wanting to tend it, protect it, and honor its bravery. Different situations require different “flavors” of tenderness. It is important to have these in our emotional toolboxes.
    To answer the question: recognize and develop these different flavors, and be aware of what you have in your toolbox.

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  • Michael

    tenderness denotes actually caring about and acting w care towards everyone and everything in present time. tending to it means I need to make sure i am living in gratefulness and my purpose.

  • Ben

    With presence that holds the tenderness in my own heart (which then can hold space for the tenderness in the other), and by offering what I hear the other most deeply asking for.

  • Christina

    I guess by embracing my vulnerability…not a comfortable feeling.

  • Gina

    to tend the tenderness around me, I tend the tenderness in me…
    feeling fragile seems more and more freeing as I experience this….

  • Kevin

    There are so many things all around us that rise to the level of being considered with “tenderness.” For me, the first order of tenderness to be mindful of is people. Here the needs are enormous. And attending to people with tenderness has been my life work thus far, in nearly every setting I find myself in. For me, it’s not a “how” but a “do.” And I start by paying attention. Sometimes it’s a matter of just being present to observe or be with another person. In my own mind I may...

    There are so many things all around us that rise to the level of being considered with “tenderness.” For me, the first order of tenderness to be mindful of is people. Here the needs are enormous. And attending to people with tenderness has been my life work thus far, in nearly every setting I find myself in. For me, it’s not a “how” but a “do.” And I start by paying attention. Sometimes it’s a matter of just being present to observe or be with another person. In my own mind I may ask, where is the hurt, what is the unmet need, or simply where is help needed most? These questions almost always place me where I need to be present to that which is tender in others.
    – Kevin

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  • Sieger des Friedens

    such a wonderful question, which already calls forward a smile on my face. When I notice tenderness around me - which is not always so easy and immediate to recognise - it is easy to respond with tenderness: so tenderness meats tendernesss and multiplies it's effect.
    After my MDSR body scan this morning I felt tenderness within myself and appreciated the woman who spoke it on a cd: (german language, Gudrun Abrecht)
    I felt the tenderness of her voice and the care of her inner commitment.

    ten...

    such a wonderful question, which already calls forward a smile on my face. When I notice tenderness around me – which is not always so easy and immediate to recognise – it is easy to respond with tenderness: so tenderness meats tendernesss and multiplies it’s effect.
    After my MDSR body scan this morning I felt tenderness within myself and appreciated the woman who spoke it on a cd: (german language, Gudrun Abrecht)
    I felt the tenderness of her voice and the care of her inner commitment.

    tenderness is a move towards gratitude and makes me see about all I can be grateful about.

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