Daily Question, May 2 In what ways have I been less wholehearted than I would like? How can I change that? 35 Reflections Share Click here to cancel reply.Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment. Notify me when someone replies to my comment via e-mail. Gina7 years agoGinaI have been less than whole hearted about my sisters and although I pray for them, I think when I am ready and able I will contact them for a warm , gracious, short visit.....that is my wish I am most heart broken about lack of contact with my 6 nieces and nephews and will try to maintain contact on their terms through social media...it is motivating me to have some skills that will help have a relationship with them and broaden my view of things, mostly to appreciate what I do have and be grat... I have been less than whole hearted about my sisters and although I pray for them, I think when I am ready and able I will contact them for a warm , gracious, short visit…..that is my wish I am most heart broken about lack of contact with my 6 nieces and nephews and will try to maintain contact on their terms through social media…it is motivating me to have some skills that will help have a relationship with them and broaden my view of things, mostly to appreciate what I do have and be grateful!!! Read More3 Reply KC7 years agoKCGina, Wishing you much courage, gentleness and joy with these projects! Warmly, KC 0 Reply Gina7 years agoGinaKC, Thank-you, courage,gentleness and joy are all what my heart yearns, Wishing you all your heart yearns, Gina❤️ 0 Reply Ben7 years agoBenSo beautiful to read all that this question evokes for people! For me right now what comes up is writing. I wish to pour my heart wholeheartedly into writing, to love others, nature, and life wholeheartedly through my words, and to let myself risk being more and more deeply seen… 3 Reply KC7 years agoKCBen, Wishing you whatever you need to allow yourself the gift – to pour yourself into writing. Wonderful image! Maybe songwriting as well? I always appreciate your gentle and thoughtful words on our wee online sanctuary… Warmly, KC 0 Reply Palm7 years agoPalmBen, you may like this http://marthabeck.com/2017/03/stop-doubting-start-writing/ 0 Reply Francine Marie Tolf7 years agoFrancine Marie TolfBen, I can promise you from the direct experience of writing and publishing a memoir as well as poetry and essays that if you write with honesty and compassion both for yourself and others, you will never regret taking risks. I covered some very sensitive material in my memoir and I did not try to make myself look better than any other family member. It was that material that spoke most to readers. I can't tell you how often I heard comments like "Wow, I thought our family was the only famil... Ben, I can promise you from the direct experience of writing and publishing a memoir as well as poetry and essays that if you write with honesty and compassion both for yourself and others, you will never regret taking risks. I covered some very sensitive material in my memoir and I did not try to make myself look better than any other family member. It was that material that spoke most to readers. I can’t tell you how often I heard comments like “Wow, I thought our family was the only family that had those kinds of problems!” Read More4 Reply KC7 years agoKCThanks Francine. I am slowly developing a memoir writing practice with an exceptional teacher and group. It is so affirming to hear about your approach, and the positive response you have received from your writing and publishing about sensitive subjects. I wonder whether Brene Brown would give a two thumbs up, to sharing and affirming our stories through safe practices and community! Warmly, KC 2 Reply Antoinette7 years agoAntoinetteI am wholeheartedly grateful for the welfare system in this country. I have been sick for a long time but I'm still able to take care of myself and family. I feel free to heal completely without stress of being bankrupt. What a blessing! Just knowing that I will not have to lose my livelihood makes becoming well my main focus. I'm so grateful for being able to have these amazing benefits! I realize that this isn't exactly the answer to this question, but for me I haven't been able to really... I am wholeheartedly grateful for the welfare system in this country. I have been sick for a long time but I’m still able to take care of myself and family. I feel free to heal completely without stress of being bankrupt. What a blessing! Just knowing that I will not have to lose my livelihood makes becoming well my main focus. I’m so grateful for being able to have these amazing benefits! I realize that this isn’t exactly the answer to this question, but for me I haven’t been able to really be wholehearted about getting well. Having always ignored my migraines and focused on work etc I pushed through no matter what! That push through attitude is what got me this way in the first place! Sometimes we MUST: stop, look and go, in a wholehearted way or we hurt ourselves by not doing so! Lessons of listening wholeheartedly to my body and intuition is an absolute must! I have learned to wholeheartedly listen to truth and love inside me. Read More4 Reply KC7 years agoKCIn my relationship to work, contribution and being of service and fully connected with life! Slowly I am changing that and surrendering to allow it to change me, just as Victor Frankl suggests in the word for today. The biggest thing is accepting and facing fears and taking daily steps, however small and imperfect. Finding and embracing my tribe is invaluable. Lots of prayer, gratitude, humility.. Learning to balance contemplation and action. Connecting with nature and beauty! Play an... In my relationship to work, contribution and being of service and fully connected with life! Slowly I am changing that and surrendering to allow it to change me, just as Victor Frankl suggests in the word for today. The biggest thing is accepting and facing fears and taking daily steps, however small and imperfect. Finding and embracing my tribe is invaluable. Lots of prayer, gratitude, humility.. Learning to balance contemplation and action. Connecting with nature and beauty! Play and laughter … Read More3 Reply Antoinette7 years agoAntoinetteHi KC , Have you read his book ? It’s a great book! mans Search for Meaning. His messages have really helped me understand a lot of things in my own life related to how attitude is. We have the choice to chose our attitude no matter what. 2 Reply KC7 years agoKCAntoinette, I often pick up Man’s Search for Meaning and read small bits. Perhaps it is time to read it more closely with fresh eyes. I have placed it at the top of my reading pile, and look forward to more of Victor’s wise words. Sincere thanks! KC 1 Reply Gina7 years agoGinaIs it written by Carl Jung? 0 Reply Deb7 years agoDebNo, Viktor Frankl is the author of Man’s Search for Meaning. Excellent book. 1 Reply Aine7 years agoAineLately, I have found that there are a number of things I can no longer do with a whole heart. It has caused me to take a serious look at these things and whether it each is something I am supposed to keep doing. Most of the time, I find that my lack of wholeheartedness towards these activities is an indication that I need to reassess my priorities and perhaps put that portion of my heart somewhere else more profitable. 5 Reply Francine Marie Tolf7 years agoFrancine Marie TolfYes, we are always changing and evolving and it is wise to recognize when some activity or practice or belief simply is no longer working. 2 Reply Aine7 years agoAineI am finding that the best way to have a solid Yes is to learn the art of the solid NO. 😀 1 Reply Deb7 years agoDebWe have two grandchildren who are unruly, unpleasant,and undisciplined. I am not whole hearted in welcoming them to our home or in our life. We are generally glad when they leave. 2 Reply Francine Marie Tolf7 years agoFrancine Marie TolfDeb, I had to laugh when I read this because I appreciate your honesty. It is a shame that the parents do not discipline these children as they should. 1 Reply John7 years agoJohnJust in case someone hasn’t seen this yet Brené Brown at TEDxHouston : https://youtu.be/X4Qm9cGRub0 2 Reply Ose7 years agoOseThanks such a lot for this! 0 Reply Aine7 years agoAineLove her stuff! 0 Reply kathleen7 years agokathleenI would say in a general sense not noticing and appreciating others as sincerely as I could. Those closest to me family and friends that somehow I keep count sometimes. 4 Reply GREG MANNING7 years agoGREG MANNINGSince my sister moved away; I feel a sense of disconnect. I want our relationship to be stronger and today I will start putting my wholehearted energy behind bringing our relationship together. 4 Reply Michael7 years agoMichaelI have been less wholehearted about money. I have viewed money as “evil” since my youth. recently I have been working to view money as a means to help make changes for good for many. 4 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinBecause of my back condition and the levels of chronic pain that it causes, I have had to curtail or cease altogether from doing many things that require physical dexterity involving both work and play. After eight years of undergoing pain management with all sorts of therapies, yesterday I met with a surgeon yesterday for the second time with new images and MRIs. Seeking a change and more proactive approach to my own health care, I have decided to move forward with surgery in September. Today�... Because of my back condition and the levels of chronic pain that it causes, I have had to curtail or cease altogether from doing many things that require physical dexterity involving both work and play. After eight years of undergoing pain management with all sorts of therapies, yesterday I met with a surgeon yesterday for the second time with new images and MRIs. Seeking a change and more proactive approach to my own health care, I have decided to move forward with surgery in September. Today’s question, for me, could not have been more spot on! – Kevin Read More6 Reply Ben7 years agoBenHolding you in the light as you move forward on this decision, Kevin, and wishing you a successful surgery and a full return to health! 0 Reply KC7 years agoKCKevin, My prayers are with you on greater ease and less pain as you move through this.. So wish I could offer more. ???????? Curiously, the Globe and Mail had an article yesterday about tons of seniors in Canada and the US using medical marijuana to manage pain. Many, it seems, are choosing this now as an alternative to prescription drugs. Who knew. I am holding an image of you out rowing with your team and playing joyfully with your grandchildren pain free! I imagine Gracie is ... Kevin, My prayers are with you on greater ease and less pain as you move through this.. So wish I could offer more. ???????? Curiously, the Globe and Mail had an article yesterday about tons of seniors in Canada and the US using medical marijuana to manage pain. Many, it seems, are choosing this now as an alternative to prescription drugs. Who knew. I am holding an image of you out rowing with your team and playing joyfully with your grandchildren pain free! I imagine Gracie is there too, happy and peaceful as ever! Warmly, KC Read More0 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinDear KC, thanks very much for your prayers and thoughts here. It's been an 8 year-long slog for sure. I'm living in New England, southeastern Mass specifically, and medical marijuana is getting big in these part too. For years I've known a number of people who use it for pain and even before it was legal to do so, were growing their own. I have glaucoma in addition to chronic back pain, and have known for some time that I could get a script for medical pot anytime I wanted. But up until 18 mont... Dear KC, thanks very much for your prayers and thoughts here. It’s been an 8 year-long slog for sure. I’m living in New England, southeastern Mass specifically, and medical marijuana is getting big in these part too. For years I’ve known a number of people who use it for pain and even before it was legal to do so, were growing their own. I have glaucoma in addition to chronic back pain, and have known for some time that I could get a script for medical pot anytime I wanted. But up until 18 months ago before I retired, I worked for decades with teens and young adults who had serious drug issues and I just couldn’t square myself using pot privately while working with people who struggled with addictions. So I just never went down that path. If other options had failed me though, for sure I would have given medical pot a go. I, unlike so many others who suffer greater than me, have good insurance and the means to explore my options with traditional medical care. Thanks again for your kind words and prayers. Read More1 Reply KC7 years agoKCHi Kevin, So good that you have access to many good options through traditional medical care. Also that working with youth informed a strong conviction to avoid addictive substances like pot. There is a huge and tragic issue in Canada now with youth and others overdosing from ‘street’ drugs used for pain management. I am with you on your approach. Small c conservative is good. Warmly, KC 0 Reply Aine7 years agoAinePrayers for success in getting you out of pain!! 0 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinThanks Aine. I think that I’ll hold off on buying a skateboard though! 🙂 0 Reply Deb7 years agoDebAfter 12 years of back pain I had surgery back in 2009. It was the best thing I could have done! I was fortunate to have insurance otherwise I could not have afforded it. Within five days I was off all pain medication! I wore a bone stimulator for nearly a year. Kevin, surgery is a big step, but the procedure has been refined and being done more easily and successfully. Best of success! Please keep us updated. I am sure we will be participating thru prayer for you. Deb 0 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinhello Deb, thank you so much for your encouraging words here. I too have had several friends who have had nearly the same surgery as myself and they report similar outcomes as your own. For sure, as seems appropriate, I will keep folks in this community informed of the process also. Thanks again! 0 Reply Christina7 years agoChristinaI think I’d turn this question around: when I AM wholehearted in my gratitude for and appreciation of life itself (“that there is anything at all”: Brother D.) 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