Daily Question, August 6 When conflict appears in my life, how can I respond productively? 23 Reflections Share Click here to cancel reply.Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment. Notify me when someone replies to my comment via e-mail. Ed Schulte7 years agoEd Schulte61 of the Ching details the importance of Introspection...know yourself first and then your reactions to ones second. Then watch for clarity to arise . Chung Fu / Inner Truth The gentle Wind ripples the Lake's surface: The Superior Person finds common ground between points of contention, wearing away rigid perspectives that would lead to fatal error. The subject of this hexagram discovers a key to Tranquility by first gaining insight into his own nature, then turning that vision ou... 61 of the Ching details the importance of Introspection…know yourself first and then your reactions to ones second. Then watch for clarity to arise . Chung Fu / Inner Truth The gentle Wind ripples the Lake’s surface: The Superior Person finds common ground between points of contention, wearing away rigid perspectives that would lead to fatal error. The subject of this hexagram discovers a key to Tranquility by first gaining insight into his own nature, then turning that vision outward. By resolving inner conflicts and being at peace with himself, he learns to gain insight into others. In effect, he enters another, sees with the other’s eyes, listens with the other’s ears, feels with the other’s heart. He then returns to his own center, with new perspective and understanding. Read More1 Reply Hot Sauce7 years agoHot SauceI really need to work on listening. Don’t respond; just listen, no matter how much you disagree or how stupid you perceive the other person to be. If I must respond, I can ask questions, such as “Why do you think that?” or “What makes you feel that way?” This is gonna take a lot of work for me though, as I tend to get defensive with confrontation. 1 Reply kathleen7 years agokathleenBy realizing that conflict is part of life and an opportunity to change or see something differently. It acknowledges "other" With kindness and dialogue it can be an appreciation of how we are unique. Then there is the internal conflict in me. Different parts of me wanting different things at the same time. It is skillful I think to be aware of habitual responses and question decisions. I notice this with going to work out. My body is tired or half sick. Should I go? or risk my newly made resolu... By realizing that conflict is part of life and an opportunity to change or see something differently. It acknowledges “other” With kindness and dialogue it can be an appreciation of how we are unique. Then there is the internal conflict in me. Different parts of me wanting different things at the same time. It is skillful I think to be aware of habitual responses and question decisions. I notice this with going to work out. My body is tired or half sick. Should I go? or risk my newly made resolution? Maybe I could go but have an energy drink there instead of working out. I find there is often a solution in between a or b. Read More3 Reply Ed Schulte7 years agoEd SchulteTy for your honesty :-) .......after all is said and none , (and then on to the next question of the day) Indeed! Is it not imposable to have a “perceived conflict" unless there is within one's self, a vibrational resonance resonating WITH THAT perceived, ?offence?", (be the "offender/or/?conflict-er”, internal or external? ) Lets be honest with ourselves .....these so-called “conflicts” ARE the best Teachers we have on our journey back home. The Divine Plan, (which we are in it... Ty for your honesty 🙂 …….after all is said and none , (and then on to the next question of the day) Indeed! Is it not imposable to have a “perceived conflict” unless there is within one’s self, a vibrational resonance resonating WITH THAT perceived, ?offence?”, (be the “offender/or/?conflict-er”, internal or external? ) Lets be honest with ourselves …..these so-called “conflicts” ARE the best Teachers we have on our journey back home. The Divine Plan, (which we are in its totality) is set-up so Perfectly! Read More0 Reply Malag7 years agoMalagThat’s really interesting, Kathleen, looking at the internal conflict. I wonder does managing internal conflict in a (hopefully) caring way spill over to how to approach external conflict? 0 Reply grateful sea7 years agograteful seaI had not thought of internal conflict. Thank you. 0 Reply Michael7 years agoMichaelStay quiet. 1 Reply grateful sea7 years agograteful seaI like this. On many levels. For me, it would be, “Stay. But stay quiet.” 0 Reply Trevor7 years agoTrevorBy training the monkey mind daily through meditation it should have a tight enough leash on it to be able to find space between the appearance of conflict and a less than skillful reaction. By living in the present moment with awareness and a peace and calm being built daily through meditation a productive response happens quite naturally. If it is a big or huge conflict, well, I will turn to help for that. Help from Kuan Yin Bodhisattva. Namo Guan Shi Yin Pu Sa www.facebook.com/Kua... By training the monkey mind daily through meditation it should have a tight enough leash on it to be able to find space between the appearance of conflict and a less than skillful reaction. By living in the present moment with awareness and a peace and calm being built daily through meditation a productive response happens quite naturally. If it is a big or huge conflict, well, I will turn to help for that. Help from Kuan Yin Bodhisattva. Namo Guan Shi Yin Pu Sa www.facebook.com/Kuan-Yin-449666925077078 Read More2 Reply Michael7 years agoMichaelI need to check myself…interrupt the cycle of conflict. I can do that by definitely listening and communicating in a positive manner. it starts with how I’m feeling about myself before the conflict causing incident. am I in gratefulness? am I healthy/sick, am I in a positive frame of mind? regardless, I need to really stop, step back, listen, and communicate in a “not trying to win” manner. 2 Reply Trevor7 years agoTrevorCheck yourself before you wreck yourself! Lol sorry. Nice answer. 0 Reply Gina7 years agoGinaI can and try to respond by seeing conflict as a natural thing, changing my thinking about it, seeing the bigger picture, remembering there is one side of the story, the other side of the story of conflict and then there is the true story - nothing is as it appears.................so being open, compassionate and curious to know the whole story of conflict. if and when I allow myself to do this, it then is not such a "conflict "but a realization that this is how life is and then it is over and... I can and try to respond by seeing conflict as a natural thing, changing my thinking about it, seeing the bigger picture, remembering there is one side of the story, the other side of the story of conflict and then there is the true story – nothing is as it appears……………..so being open, compassionate and curious to know the whole story of conflict. if and when I allow myself to do this, it then is not such a “conflict “but a realization that this is how life is and then it is over and something new emerges, often something good cause all is impermanent anyway …. what appeared to be a conflict has somehow changed, configured into something different……. asking for help, and accepting the universe is always providing solutions I feel hopeful all happens for a higher purpose….. Read More2 Reply Christina7 years agoChristinaAbhor conflict; will avoid it at all costs. It makes me physically ill (migraine, nausea.) When it’s others’ conflict, I just shut up. 2 Reply Trevor7 years agoTrevorWise woman. 1 Reply Antoinette7 years agoAntoinetteWhen conflict shows up in life I can say yes to life. I can try to find 10 positive aspects from whatever is occurring. Like Einstein reminds us, " never lose the holiness of Curiosity." It's funny how the photo is of a cat next to a mushroom! Finding humor and or not taking everything so seriously also helps in times of conflict. Curiosity never killed the cat ! In other words, I have the choice to not be reactive. I can remember to change my mind and change my attitude! Choose an attit... When conflict shows up in life I can say yes to life. I can try to find 10 positive aspects from whatever is occurring. Like Einstein reminds us, ” never lose the holiness of Curiosity.” It’s funny how the photo is of a cat next to a mushroom! Finding humor and or not taking everything so seriously also helps in times of conflict. Curiosity never killed the cat ! In other words, I have the choice to not be reactive. I can remember to change my mind and change my attitude! Choose an attitude of gratitude ! Take whatever is happening and soften myself. Let go of harshness and the judging mind. Sometimes we can’t always change an outcome, but we can change our minds. Read More1 Reply Trevor7 years agoTrevorNice way to use the WftD, well look at how craftily mindful ye are. 1 Reply Antoinette7 years agoAntoinettePlant goodness, Thank you! And what a wonderful message: plant goodness! 0 Reply Shelby13147 years agoShelby1314Step back and do not react. Think about it for a while and try to do so from the others perspective. Respond only when I can do so objectively. 1 Reply Kevin7 years agoKevinBy making sure that I have heard the root of the issue correctly and understanding who truly owns the problem, then sitting with it for a bit. After that, I try to remember to ask for spiritual guidance, then address the matter head on. – Kevin 3 Reply Always Learning7 years agoAlways LearningThe first thing I do is breathe. ???? Then I remind myself to “act” instead of “react.” I am doing better and better with applying the ideas of The Four Agreements, ~ Be impeccable with my word ~ Don’t take things personally ~ Don’t make assumptions ~ Do my best When I stay within these parameters, I am productive and within integrity. 4 Reply Ose7 years agoOseIf ever possible, I try to go with the flow and observe where it leads me to. Means with the flow of observing the conflict, my emotional involvement, try to stay as balanced as possible in this and give space a chance to guide me and let next steps arise from beyond by staying open and alert for still moments. This I feel is taking consideration with each part, mine, the other one`s and the beyond´s greater view and to go for the best way to deal with the conflict, which respects all concerne... If ever possible, I try to go with the flow and observe where it leads me to. Means with the flow of observing the conflict, my emotional involvement, try to stay as balanced as possible in this and give space a chance to guide me and let next steps arise from beyond by staying open and alert for still moments. This I feel is taking consideration with each part, mine, the other one`s and the beyond´s greater view and to go for the best way to deal with the conflict, which respects all concerned. Read More2 Reply Antoinette7 years agoAntoinetteThanks Ose! Go with the flow and say yes to life! This feels so right! 1 Reply Malag7 years agoMalagYes it’s a “when” not an “if”. It’s part of everyday life. I have to say I find it difficult and avoid it where I can. 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