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Daily Question, October 16

What can I do today to show kindness towards myself?

  • Lunamagicae

    Ensure I am practicing self compassion. I am rather good with the self talk, I think it nipped that in the bud a few years back. But I must give myself the rest my body requires.

  • Anita

    Pay attention to self-talk.
    Talk to myself like I would my children. With kindness and respect. Be gentle. Take time out to breathe.

  • Trevor

    Train like a caged genjin warbeast releasing absurd amounts of neurotransmitters and only take in substances that provide nutrients.

    • Trevor

      I did not do this but the thought of it was very kind I felt to myself. Tomorrow is another day.

  • Amor fati

    Use breathing exercises to maximize acceptance, reduce worry and physical pain

  • Antoinette

    Not beat myself up for everything and try to let go of being upset about having the 10th migraine for the month. I want to do so much and pain stops me! Let go and relax!

    • Aine

      Have you tried acupuncture? I used to have horrible headaches all the time, some for days on end. Acupuncture got me to where I rarely have a headache at all now.

      I second Trevor with the qi gong. I use the Qi Gong For Stress Relief dvd by Francesco Garry Garripoli and Daisy Lee Garripoli. Very relaxing. It has become my favorite.

      • Antoinette

        Aine,
        Yes, I have actually and I do not get headaches. I get cluster migrains.
        I do a lot of relaxation meditaion. I have not tried Qi Gong, but I have always wanted to. I do yoga. Maybe it is Worth a try? 🙂

    • Trevor

      Qigong sister. Search YouTube for Mimi Kuodeemer or something LOL followed by 8 Brocades, like Mimi 8 Brocades and check out her routines.

    • Anna

      Let go and relax dear Antoinette! I am with you, migraine is such a bad fellow… maybe when season are changing, everything is worse, at least, I believe that it is true for me.
      Take care! Smile at yourself in the morning, all shall be well (me too, I am trying my best….).
      )

      • Antoinette

        Anna,
        Thank you so much for reaching out. I forgot that you have migraines. I have had 11 so this month, and that’s too much.
        I agree, perhaps there is a connection to change in seasons. Currently, there are so many changes that it’s making my head spin. Dizziness has also been an issue but too many meds can also play a role.
        To be honest, I just wish I had the cure.
        Sending loving kindness to you Anna.
        Keep in touch I appreciate your thoughtfulness. Be well.

  • Hot Sauce

    Since it is currently my Fall Break, work hard to get my homework done and possibly get ahead so that I can have ample time for rest and leisure for the rest of the week.

  • Aine

    Allow myself to be how I am, where I am. Celebrate what I can now do that I couldn’t a year ago rather than being as frustrated as I have been for what I think I ought to be doing now but cannot yet handle.

    And I can listen up because variations on this theme have been flying at me today!

    • Anna

      Yes, celebrate what I can do now that I could not last year….I will listen to your advice Aine, starting tomorrow…

    • Antoinette

      Aine,
      I believe I can second that feeling!

  • Deb

    I have the beginnings of a cold. I can be kind to myself by being gentle and lowering my expectations of what I can and should do this day.

  • Michael

    start w my personal mindset “I love you. I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. it is the Ho’oponopono prayer. from there I can continue to spread kindness to myself and others through the day.

    • Aine

      Those are the Four Important Things, right? From the book by Ira Blyock?

  • Ed Schulte

    What can I do today to show kindness towards myself?

    I will be taking and and applying the truth emanating from the “Word of the Day”. “People are like stained glass windows: They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light within. ELISABETH KUBLER-ROSS

    And I will doing Internal exercises which help to generate ample “light within”. And then through the day, I will be watchful to not waste this...“li...

    What can I do today to show kindness towards myself?

    I will be taking and and applying the truth emanating from the “Word of the Day”. “People are like stained glass windows: They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light within. ELISABETH KUBLER-ROSS

    And I will doing Internal exercises which help to generate ample “light within”. And then through the day, I will be watchful to not waste this…“light within” on on egoic emotions such as anger or animosity or ..etc etc ..

    That is the first step in being “kind to myself”.

    And then also being ever watchful for others who are emanating their “light within”. Receiving it with silent gratitude because it is the very nature of this “light within” to apprehend other like-“light within”.

    And finally, when possible, reading light emanating material and sharing it with others ..”a communion of “light within” so to speak. Such as..

    Come to the garden in Spring.
    There is light and wine, and sweethearts
    in the pomegranate flowers.If you do not come, these do not matter,
    If you do come, these do not matter”
    RUMI

    Rumi’s point is very clear ….you cannot be good to others without being genuinely good to your self first. In “the garden” ( which is all light, just light ) there is no “you” and “other”.

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  • Always Learning

    Forgive myself… and not beat myself up.
    See that little first grader in myself, and treat myself as he should have been.

    • Aine

      Amen

    • Francine Marie Tolf

      Well put! We are too hard on ourselves. I think about my failures and stupid moments about 50 times more than I think of my successes.

      • Aine

        Yep. And we also tend to magnify our perceived missteps into personal failures when we would barely take note of the same in someone else.

        My stupid moments are easier for me since the really stupid ones are often quite funny! I can then have a chuckle at myself and move on.

  • Palm

    Starting with yesterday's question, "what experiences are offering me perspective?" there seems to be a recurrent theme for me at the moment, and this is that my thoughts are not necessarily the truth. Yesterday, I had an honest conversation with my husband and realised how ashtray my thoughts can take me if I don't check on what the other person is thinking. This may seem obvious to anyone else but it was a revelation for me. Now, how can I be kind to myself? I am grateful for this revelation, ...

    Starting with yesterday’s question, “what experiences are offering me perspective?” there seems to be a recurrent theme for me at the moment, and this is that my thoughts are not necessarily the truth. Yesterday, I had an honest conversation with my husband and realised how ashtray my thoughts can take me if I don’t check on what the other person is thinking. This may seem obvious to anyone else but it was a revelation for me. Now, how can I be kind to myself? I am grateful for this revelation, and I feel a deep compassion for myself and my husband.

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    • Anna

      It often happens during the week end, dear Palm… I have been in the same circumstances during these days…????. I agree, in these moments, it needs a shift in our perspectives. And thank you for Anne Lamont’s reminder.

    • Aine

      OH, yes, Palm! I, too, have to do periodic check ins with my husband or another person, a long term trusted friend. I am so prone to see everything I do or don't do in a negative light, especially while still slowly recovering. I've been a bit down on myself lately thinking I really need to be doing more faster than is possible. Having the courage to ask my husband or the friend for a perspective check helps breathe the relief of truth across the fog of failure so the sun can come out again. ???...

      OH, yes, Palm! I, too, have to do periodic check ins with my husband or another person, a long term trusted friend. I am so prone to see everything I do or don’t do in a negative light, especially while still slowly recovering. I’ve been a bit down on myself lately thinking I really need to be doing more faster than is possible. Having the courage to ask my husband or the friend for a perspective check helps breathe the relief of truth across the fog of failure so the sun can come out again. ????

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      • Palm

        Exactly Aine ! That’s how it feels, first the fog then the light. Will keep in mind the periodic check ins, even with an old friend of mine, thanks for the feedback,, wishing you patience with yourself and radical self-care, as Anne Lammot would say… ????

        • Aine

          Thank you, Palm. Yes, I am much more patient with others than with myself! I am learning, though, that this radical self-care and self-compassion are the key to so very much!

  • Kevin

    Follow through and make an appointment to see my pain management specialist about a treatment he wanted me to consider. I don’t know about other folks, but sometimes, with non-critical medical matters, avoiding the “next steps” feels easy to do until the pain levels creep up and you realize what you’re NOT doing to be kind to yourself. This morning I will make an appointment!

  • Christina

    Probably take it easy, go slow. I’m a little under the weather plus there have been some tough-to-take temperature changes here. It’s so hard for me to slow down! But I work 7-3 tomorrow, with a 45-minute commute so showing kindness toward myself by slowing down is indicated.

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