I hope I’m allowed to comment again!
“May you take time to celebrate the quiet miracles that seek no attention.”
After the end of a wonderful day, I would like to add how grateful I am for getting along with all three of my sons today.
I said a few days ago how challenging my relationship is with my middle son, and that was I worried about our relationship.
After reflecting here, with you all and myself, I realized that choosing to love him over being “right” or pushing him let’s just say; was the right choice.
Tonight he was so loving and it made my heart overflow with joy! Even if it’s for one day that love shines like this it’s worth it all!
I believe that celebrating the everyday parts of our lives is what life is about.
The joy of playing tennis with my youngest son last night until 8:30at night, and today when my middle son made brownies and served them to me with a hug!
What more could a person want? Just to see a smile on their faces made the whole day worth it.
I couldn’t be more grateful to all of you and this sight for teaching me how love with an open heart.
Goodnight!

I think that being grateful every moment takes being aware. We have to find that awareness no matter what, to be able to not fall into the trap of the ego.
Yesterday night I had a really challenging time with my middle son.
I feel disrespect and anger come iin between us.
It’s times like this that I’m tested.

I had to make a choice of how to be present with my son. Part of me wanted to show him what used to be called tough love, and the other part of me was hurt as well as, frustrated with the whole experience being a patent!
Sometimes no matter how hard we try to communicate it’s like we are two ships sailing in the night!
I love my son dearly, however I can’t seem to crack the wall around him. It is as if there is a defensive barrier betweeen is which he almost always guards with dear life. I doesn’t want to let me I. To his inner space.
The harder I try the more we butt heads.
Long story short, I’m not sure how to go about this relationship.
Today after allowing myself some space from the issue, I realized that maybe the answer is to accept whatever the present moment brings and be grateful that we are in each other.
I feel like I want to teach him about what I feel is important regarding a work ethic and respect, but not at the expense of losing him.
I hope that this doesn’t mean I’m not being a push over parent by not teaching hard-core consequences, but I am fearful of what those consequences would bring to our relationship.
It all seems to boil down to making someone see my point or being right in the end. Being right and view points are not more important than the value of loving relationships.
I feel that in the end, love is what matters most to me and by being present to the moments that challenge me and allowing love to shine no matter what will be the rigjt way to move forward.
This painful relationship is teaching me patience and unconditional love like no other.

When we live life knowing we are all from the same source we go with the flow of things more. We don’t try to work against things by fighting everyone and everything that’s happening to is.
Today I’m going through a really hard time and this question at first made me react negatively. It brought up feelings of the enemy we just thought about a few days ago.
When we feel attacked maybe we should reflect on where that’s coming from? I am feeling attached right now but how should I respond when we are coming from the same source? All I know at this very moment is that I want things to be turn out well for everyone. But how is that possible? What’s the secret?

Dear Ben ,
Thank you for sharing your story with us.
I’m so sorry this happened to you .
I hope you can find some relief from your suffering .
I read something about physical pain and living with an illness the other day which helped me a lot. Maybe it will help you and maybe it won’t.
The main point about it was to not identify with or put a label on yourself as a sick person. Or one who has an illness or disease . It said the more we affiliate with and talk about it the more it grows in energy. It was Echeart Tolle who wrote about how we identify with our pain and it was very helpful for me think about being carful about when I suffer from what I’m trying to heal that I almost turn my life into being the one who had this.
So for me, I’m going to to give it a try and the next time anyone asks me about my issue I will cut the discussion short. I’m going to have a basic answer for everyone other than my doctors. That will be: “I’m progressing on my healing process.”
Nothing more said and move on with it.
I believe I can make must better, no matter what the neurologist says.
It’s going to happen.
Anyway, I’m not saying
Of course that you by any means identify with the sickness. Clearly I have no way of knowing this about you. I simply found the view point interesting and wanted to throw it out there.
Here is to the gratefulness of the healing process! May you be pain free.

Deb,
Happy Mother’s Day to you . I can’t imagine how hard of a challenge you have right now. I can try to understand through how it feels when my boys have been gone for what feels like too long at there fathers house. The divorce is still new to me and the hardest part is feeling like I’m losing my children. Their not children they are 17,15, and 13, so in a way they are still kids. Anyway I keep having a hard time with this letting go process too.
Sometimes the things we hold on to most tightly are the things we actually do need to let go of in perfect to be free ourselves.
I often feel like I’m not ready for this that or the other thing, but in all actuality, I believe we must accept whatever is rather than work against it.
The present moment must be allowed to be whatever it is and when we allow it to be we can then act accordingly. We need to embrace what is and relax in the space of what it. We can then stop, look, and go gracefully. I know this can happen for both of us.